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#1
Hi All,

Did you know that you can subscribe to a post and receive email notifications if there are replies to that post ? And you can subscribe to a particular reply and receive email notification of replies to that specific one only.

Here's the Usr Manual for future ref - https://wiki.simplemachines.org/smf/Category:As_a_regular_user

How to Subscribe to a Topic from that Usr Manual - https://wiki.simplemachines.org/smf/Notifications -

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Using Notifications
Subscribing to a Topic

There are two ways to subscribe to a topic:

    When you are posting a reply, under Attachments and other options, you may check the Notify me of replies box.
    When you are viewing the topic, you may select the Notify button at the top or bottom of the page. You will be asked if you are sure, select OK to confirm the subscription.

Subscribing to a Board

To subscribe to a board, you may select the Notify button at the top or bottom of the Message Index of the respective board.

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I invite you all to do this because so many posts fizzle out after a day or two which is a shame. However if you know when someone has replied you can at least choose to go read it and reply, at the moment you can but check in at random which may mean missing out on replies. It's important on a forum like this that we can build lasting supportive relationships and the ability to follow a topic in a timely fashion helps a great deal to that end.
#2
Hello Friends,

I'm a newbie, my first post.

I am a grown middle aged man and i've never properly 'flown the nest'. Although I physically left the parents home decades ago, the spiritual umbilical cord was never cut due to a mum who is well meaning but nonetheless massively codependant, narcissistic, controlling and thinks she is entitled to control me. My dad dies many years ago btw. One of the effects of the childhood emotional abuse is major abandonment anxiety, basically it's left me as something of a child, this has wrecked my life and all relationships eg work, friends etc. but especially with women.

Over the years I have been awakening, becoming more aware of my self and I want to own my self, not be controlled by anyone else.
I have always lived fairly close to my mum mainly because of her 'orders' to do so, i've always been under her spell to some extent but I am going to change that soon. I am going to move quite far so it will take many hours to travel to her place and that in itself will provoke her childish anger, she does an Oscar winning passive/aggressive. She is very likely to unleash such a major anger fuelled guilt trip that no one in my situation could possibly want to have contact with a person behaving like that, it may well lead to  permanent NC. Whilst I have always known how wrong she is to be so possessive of my life and soul I mentioned the tremendous abandonment anxiety that I experience. On the one hand she has NEVER been there for me and yet finally cutting the cord feels really scary especially as she will bad mouth me to all relations and so NC with all of them too. She's cunning and manipulative.

This will most likely be the greatest challenge of my life and I don't have any close friends, the kind of people I can confide in so i'm just putting myself out there and I am asking for your help and moral support over the next few months.

Thanks for listening.
#3
Hello Everyone,

I am really pleased to have found this forum and honoured to join it. Like all of you, I imagine, I have been making my way slowly but surely through the darkness into light of healing and recovery. As I become more aware of the trauma and injury from the familal abuse that I experienced I learn more about myself and especially how I responded to the abuse - my coping mechanisms. It is often a dark and lonely place but I also have hope and try to exercise some discipline in that respect, I am going to focus on being my true authentic self.

I have come here to  share, I want to ask for support and I want to give my support to others. So I wish you all well on your journey and look forward to sharing with you.