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Thanks three roses. That's pretty much what I did. We came to the conclusion that our cPTSD contagious. Lol. It's not funny really but apparently when I was triggered, my emotional response triggered her. We agreed that although we do care and want to physically be there for each other, in certain instances we need to support each other from a distance. And if there is a pretty good likelihood that one of us could be triggered than another friend should be the support person. Although we do understand each other in ways that others don't, for things like this a less emotionally reactive person needs to be present. Thanks for your feedback.

Recently told my emotional abuser to not come back. I wanted to go no contact because I am constantly triggered and there are also attempts at manipulation on his end. I needed to see him in person to switch a car title into his name (he had my car, in my insurance, and was drinking and driving). I brought a friend with trauma/cptsd for support, thinking that she would understand. He of coarse started his manipulation and I was triggered. I got emotional. She started to try and reason with me, telling me that I should do certain things and I was being unreasonable if I actually wanted him out of my life. I feel that I have the right to be in my place if he insists on pacing his own things. I don't trust him. Her attempts to "mediate" (which was not why I brought her) only made me feel more out of control and triggered. I lost it and told her to get out of my car.

My question is, how do I get my point across, how this made me feel,  Without  taking all the blame or putting it all on her. I want to make sure that she understands how what she did affected me, without placing blame.