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That's the issue, these ARE people familiar with my situation.  Close friends and family who have had a front row seat for years.  People think I'm "letting" him get away with it by doing "nothing" and "allowing" his behavior, "enabling" him, etc.   They all know Ive spent my entire life savings in legal fees to end up almost suicidal when the court system falls for all his lies and deceit so I just end up isolating even more.  Questioning myself and my own sanity, etc. 

I get advice like "LIfe is what you make of it" while this man just moved onto my F'ing street where I have to watch him remodel his house while I cant even pay for hot water in mine because he doesn't honor the court orders I wasted my retirement savings getting.

Pretty much EVERY time the topic of my co-parenting situation comes up and I make an attempt to confide in someone, I get the typical unsolicited advice of how I should call my lawyer, file this, that, etc. go to child support enforcement, blah, blah, blah...all the stuff that yes, would be the logical solution if dealing with even a half normal person but does nothing or makes matters worse when dealing with a NPD.

I find myself getting angry, defensive as if "Really!  Ya seriously think I never F'ing thought of/tried that?"  I feel MORE invalidated, traumatized, ALONE as a result of peoples well meaning logical outlook on what has become my miserable crazy life where I've spent almost $50k in legal fees to end up worse off than I was when I was actually with this whacko that I was never married to but had a child with.

Love being told how amicability is really whats best for my daughter, etc. by people who have no idea how I could be so literally fearful for my life around someone who I admit, never laid a hand on me. 

How do you folks shut people down.  I need to get a tactic for this down as each of these types of interactions sends me into a PTSD episode.