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Frustrated? Set Backs? / Re: Adrift in a Sea of Despair
« on: January 26, 2021, 03:17:43 PM »
 :hug: to you if it's okay! I'm glad you came here and reached out for comfort and the release that comes from talking about our pain and being met with compassion.

You're important to me and ever more will remain so.

... anytime I thought something different from what my parents thought, they would try to convince me that I didn't know anything and I should just listen to my betters, and I would get no peace until I at least seemed to agree with them.

Classic gaslighting!

It feels like I'm giving up on my whole FOO.

I went NC with the last of my FOO (male sibling). At times I do feel a sense of loss, especially when I hear others talking about having good relationships with their siblings. But mostly these days I feel a kind of pride that I finally valued myself and my peace enough to cut him out formally (having a phone conversation with him stating I did not want a relationship with him - he did not take it well - my heart was pounding but I did it). I am nurturing the relationships I do have with my chosen family, those who give back to me as I also give to them. I'm focusing on making sure all my relationships are two-way streets. That feels really good, much better than any controlling, shallow relationship I had with anyone just because it felt like I was supposed to.

You will find the answers you need if you just keep listening to that inner voice telling you what's best for you.

Recovery Journals / Re: Discovery Journal
« on: January 17, 2021, 12:09:10 AM »
Thanks, all!

Recovery Journals / Re: Discovery Journal
« on: January 16, 2021, 05:54:48 PM »
Hugs back to you, Hope!  :hug:

Recovery Journals / Re: Discovery Journal
« on: January 16, 2021, 05:45:21 PM »
Hello, good people of this forum! :wave:

My antidepressant is doing its job, I'm happier for the most part and feeling more balanced. Something else I credit for the shift in me is Internal Family Systems Therapy. Due to covid and other things I'm not in therapy, but I'm finding that using just the basics of IFS that I understand has given me the ability to better deal with triggers, usually before I even experience a debilitating flashback.

I hope each and every one of you - those I know and those I don't - are doing well.

Successes, Progress? / Re: Progress in healing from CSA
« on: October 09, 2020, 02:08:42 PM »
And in the past 12 hours more of the shame has lifted. :cheer:

 :cheer: :cheer: :cheer:

Therapy / Re: What is the most effective treatment?
« on: October 08, 2020, 03:42:13 PM »
This approach is bringing me the most progress I've seen in over 30 years R Schwartz Soren interview IFS 1of 4

I'm sorry you didn't get any responses.

Sex is a very difficult thing to discuss for many members of this forum. Myself included.

Reading your post caused me to have a visual flashback and in order to escape that I had to stop reading.

Guests' views of posts show in the counter, but only members can reply.

Flashbacks occur in the amygdala first, a deeper part of the brain. They can also be called amygdala hijacks.

Recovery Journals / Re: More Concrete Steps, More Therapy Homework
« on: October 03, 2020, 04:17:35 PM »
I really like that you chose to respond to your client's email on Monday.  :cheer:

Introductory Post / Re: Looking for hope
« on: October 01, 2020, 04:16:51 AM »
Welcome, Jemini! If you're looking for real-time support, may i suggest the Zoom meetings that NAASCA hosts? You don't have to speak or appear on camera, you don't even have to introduce yourself - altho the host may gently encourage you, just to make sure you get a chance to speak.

Here's the link to their site; the Zoom meeting info is there, about half way down the page...

Thanks for joining

(NAASCA is the National Association for Adult Survivors of Child Abuse. No one will press you to reveal details of your past abuse.)

I've just been cgecking them manually when I want, I don't want the extra emails. 

Information Sheets, Forms & Questionnaires / Re: ICD11 is online
« on: September 30, 2020, 04:02:17 AM »
Thanks, Slim  :thumbup:

Recovery Journals / Re: Snowdrop's journal
« on: September 30, 2020, 04:00:57 AM »
Write, that's huge! Good job  :cheer:

Recovery Journals / Re: Snowdrop's journal
« on: September 28, 2020, 06:41:12 AM »
I don't remember how I registered for just the October 1 session with Dr Schwartz  :doh: but here is a link to the entire summit on trauma -

Let me know if that doesn't work, I can try emailing the contact in the registration they sent me. (It's free btw)

Same happens to me sometimes. I either don't remember the past few hours or they're just a foggy memory. I know I experience dissociation, but I do not think I have compartmentalized my parts (as in DID). It seems to me I just dissociate heavily at times. I hope you find this comforting. We all have parts, as you know, but it seemed to me you were worried you may have DID. Not necessarily the case even if you don't remember the last few hours.

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