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Friends / Re: Time to let go... Cptsd or bpd

« on: November 27, 2019, 04:05:55 AM »

How did it turn out?  It’s so hard when you’ve invested so much of yourself in a friendship to finally admit how toxic and unbalanced it is and how unhealthy it is for us.  I hope things are going better, but I know it’s still sad even when it’s for the best.

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Friends / Re: Overly Sensitive Vs. Setting Boundaries

« on: January 16, 2019, 07:03:37 PM »

I just stumbled on this today, I feel like I could have written it and parts of the responses.  I’m starting to feel that one of my problems is I misinterpret that sort of “honeymoon period” when I meet a new friend and think they have a lot of empathetic traits as I do.   But I start to realize over time, that just hugging people and saying “I love you friend”  doesn’t an empath make.   Actions have to match.  And I struggle the same with worrying my expectations are too high, but how low is too low conversely?   Tired of being the “that’s okay” with unbalanced friendships 😑

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Having an Exceptionally Difficult Day / Re: Fighting for my real self

« on: June 23, 2018, 11:06:50 PM »

Agree with other poster, the “friend” didn’t have to say anything at all/say they were out.  Personally I’m stunned.  Why not offer to split or something 😡!  I think many of us on this and other site tend to want to know “why’” or “understand” why people do the things they do.  As if maybe having an answer that makes sense or is reasonable will then make our world okay again.  Someone just being self-ish or self-absorbed doesn’t make sense in our worlds.   I know it’s a bad habit I have.  I want to find an “excuse” for the friend treating me crappy instead of admitting they are a crappy friend😞.

**my two cents