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I dont know how many boards I have been banned from.

The latest because I clearly identified the moderators bias.

The real world cant handle the most simple of truths.

Let alone what we have experienced.

The eye sees everything but itself.

This is a true thing.

Much more difficult than that is finding the true others who are willing to share with you in an uncritical way.

Without them you are left in the quagmire of bovine faeces. Turn whatever way you wish it is all BS.

Yesterday a decision was made and was further clarified this morning.

We are going to sell our beautiful home that have spent over $1M renovating to our standards and move to a semi-rural location so that I am not constantly struggling with noise stress.

This was what caused all the fear in my inner child a few days ago, yet yesterday when we went to visit to possible house + sizeable section options my inner child was calm in the comfort of adult me. Sadly though one is a magnificent but small home the spaces felt wrong to me (it has featured on the TV programme "Grand Designs").

So after yesterdays visits and some more internet searching we have decided to become cashed up buyers first and save the searching until we have certainty on what our budget will be.

 

Hey Cyd,

I have had a complete meltdown. I stopped working in January last year. Fortunately I have good income protection insurance.

I have looked upon this as a good thing. Shake free the shackles that held me tight and give myself the space to breathe, to heal, to grow. I am making progress but ever so slowly. That's okay.

I still have horrible days where I needlessly beat myself up. But then that seems to be the norm around this place and we are all here to lend an ear and a cyber hug when needed.



Boy2w

Today my guts have locked up, my chest wall is rigid. Fear, uncertainty.

I sat down to write an email to one of my Ts, as I wrote it I realised what was happening and what steps I needed to take next.

My Inner child is frightened. All this work that has been done to create a safe space we will leave for what?

So I am working on comforting my inner child. The fear is valid and the adult me understands this and is able to make good rational choices.

Some yoga. Now calmer.

Welcome aiminghigh,

Take your time, explore, post when you are ready. We are all part of each others support network.

P.S. My high school motto in latin meant pretty much your name.

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Hi malt2018

You are right both ways.

You may have been subject to sexual abuse by an abuser who was cold and incommunicative.

Or you were physically but not sexually abused, again with that cold incommunicative manner.

You are most right about the bodies stored memory, and to me it is best to explore this with a safe therapist.

I have finished off and posted my next blog entry, the rest of what I wrote follows here -

Besides the different parts of me are also the "scripts" I was taught as a child. So for any medical related appointment I am well groomed, well attired, well behaved and on time. This has led to most of my therapists perceiving me as higher functioning than I truly am. So I have begun to experiment with going off script. This caused my inner critic to get quite upset, angry, harsh. The first attempt went well. I was even unintentionally late, I parked and without self criticism I did not run or walk fast but went at a measured pace with my anxiety rising as I got closer.

That psychotherapy session and the next few after were spent exploring ways of going off script with my psychiatrists, my inner critic was quite clear that there was no way I could do that. In the end I did manage to go completely off script, with less anxiety each time.

And now Andy along with one of my psychiatrists have thrown me a conundrum. Stay in Auckland, or move up Matakana way. We already have two properties we will be viewing at the end of this week. Whilst I have been house sitting in Matakana, both Andrew and my psychiatrist have noticed how calmer and more relaxed and even happy I am. Auckland is a never ending supply of noise stress but I am unsure about the possibility of moving.

I've been having a busy time lately. I have been reading many of the posts on the forum but saying little.

Hope, I enjoyed your summary of chapter one in your book. It made me want to go back and re-read mine again as I haven't touched it in some time.

Guess what, I have a first edition. Its chapter one is dry and boring. Never mind.

Hope, please continue with your new thread for each chapter in your book. I really look forward to that and to reading many of your other posts, forgive me for not replying but I am there along side you (&WattleBird).

Thanks you guys. I guess it has. The thing is, if a student at school says they are being whacked with a utensil on the daily, I would be obligated to report to CPS.

Boy, I'm angry that my GCb ruined the kids. It just wasn't necessary. It was redneck and uneducated to not learn from our own experience. These kids are beautiful, loving, smart kids who now have every neuroses in the book.

And I'm mad that by healing and realizing things and trying, I'm the outcast person in the family.

Good reasons to be angry.

I cant say my first significant relationship was that long, nor was I mature enough to understand his deficits.

Even at that young age it still took a number of years to find the next person who "clicked".

It is now 25yrs on, and we are both still needing to have therapy to work on ourselves.

Life, is a work in progress.

Congrats!

I'm not quite clear who you are angry with Phoebes?

I suspect it is your harsh inner critic chastising you and making you feel angry at yourself. Trust me, you've already beaten yourself up enough.

Getting angry with the other adults wont be productive.

I have a similar family in my extended family and I just feel sad about and sorry for the children. These ones were getting some help until the mothers misplaced mistrust saw her cut them off from this.

Thanks hope,

I was awoken this morning by the sound of heavy rain on my roof causing my pain levels to surge again.

With the rain easing + my morning meds I have made it to yoga this morning.

Hope to get a little outdoor work done this afternoon. Probably need a nap from the early morning waking.