finding the right fit with a therapist can be a hit and miss kind of thing. just know that it's not you. and, it may not be the therapist, either. i agree with arpy1 on that. but, it seems that you have a lot of doubts and misgivings about this therapist, and that, right there, is a red flag to me.
i had an awful experience with my first therapist, on many levels, but one that stood out was the idea you mentioned about not feeling good after a session. not feeling good about yourself? i don't think that's a good thing. not feeling good about the way the therapist responded? not feeling good about how the session went? also, i don't think those are good things. to my mind, a therapist should always find a way to help and encourage a client to feel good about him/herself, no matter how difficult the session itself might have been. we're all going to have difficult sessions at times, when we're confronted with ourselves, our own responsibilities in a relationship, (no, i'm not blaming the victim here, just that we must always look at if or how we might have done things differently in the past, and what we need to change for the future) and/or we went through a sensitive subject that brought our emotions to the fore. still, no matter what the content of the session, i do believe that the client's well-being comes first. if nothing else, you show great courage and strength in asking for help, and you deserve the best help you can get.
there are lots of therapists who are very aware of this dynamic, and work hard to provide it for their clients. i think there is nothing wrong with wanting a therapist who gives that to you, so there is nothing wrong with looking for a different therapist when you don't get it where you are. it's difficult to have to change therapists, i know, but i also know that when you have one with whom you have a good fit, it makes all the difference in the world. best to you, sienna.
i had an awful experience with my first therapist, on many levels, but one that stood out was the idea you mentioned about not feeling good after a session. not feeling good about yourself? i don't think that's a good thing. not feeling good about the way the therapist responded? not feeling good about how the session went? also, i don't think those are good things. to my mind, a therapist should always find a way to help and encourage a client to feel good about him/herself, no matter how difficult the session itself might have been. we're all going to have difficult sessions at times, when we're confronted with ourselves, our own responsibilities in a relationship, (no, i'm not blaming the victim here, just that we must always look at if or how we might have done things differently in the past, and what we need to change for the future) and/or we went through a sensitive subject that brought our emotions to the fore. still, no matter what the content of the session, i do believe that the client's well-being comes first. if nothing else, you show great courage and strength in asking for help, and you deserve the best help you can get.
there are lots of therapists who are very aware of this dynamic, and work hard to provide it for their clients. i think there is nothing wrong with wanting a therapist who gives that to you, so there is nothing wrong with looking for a different therapist when you don't get it where you are. it's difficult to have to change therapists, i know, but i also know that when you have one with whom you have a good fit, it makes all the difference in the world. best to you, sienna.