Quote from: Rain on November 27, 2014, 12:09:41 AM
Thank you soooooooooo much for this post. A couple of things, yes, Elaine Aron said the same thing in her book that HSPs do not fare well being abused --more so-- than most children. You said it well, it is an extra wallop.
You also bring up something that I have wondered about on OOTS members as a whole, which is the high IQ factor. For the most part, this is an very smart group of people. And, I am also aware, this is a group that has survived, and also went so far as to find a support group. However, it still leaves me wondering what "contribution" (I cringe using that word) that the abuse had to the high IQ. Yes, I had noticed you were quite intelligent, zazu ...so, it is not a "loss" as you say.
I have met someone with synesthesia before in that saw music as color. For you, Zazu, your experience of music is a qualitative difference ...sad ...happy ...soooo, Christmas carols are tear-jerkers for you? I'm sighing here. And, does that mean when you go to funerals, and hear the organ music, it is happy, joy-evoking for you?? This is a major bummer. So, high school dances your peers are laughing having good time to the music, and it is intensely sad music for you. Correct? And, then you are supposed to join in ....not fun.
As to HSP, I don't know ...that is part of why I was asking. It would take a researcher, etc. though to really answer your question. I just had an impression of a high % of HSP here. And, yes, the CPTSD symptoms and HSP do have similarities in some aspects. I'm sure you know, but HSP is a biologically different nervous system according to Aron.
I'm delighted you are taking such good care of your HSP children!!! Wow. And, your other son being intuitive. Hey, Zazu ...sounds like you are doing a great job of being a mother! Way to Go!!!
Hi Rain,
Sorry it's taken so long to respond (I've been away for Thanksgiving holiday)....
I didn't mean to mislead in my previous post. I don't have synesthesia related to music - that's just an example of how my "wiring" is a bit wonky. I kind of wish I did - it would be cool to see shapes and colors with sounds! No, I have the gustatory-lexical type (tasting words), some word-color and one type that's rather hard to fit in one category - the way I experience memory is a bit like a filing cabinet, but instead of being labeled alphabetically or numerically, like a real life filing system, the memories are categorized by color, taste and feeling. If I need to retrieve a memory, I'll remember the color, taste and especially the feeling that went with a certain date and be able to pull it out and re-live the memory.
It happens with even small things, like, say, remembering what's on a particular page of a book. This amazes my husband, who can never remember where a particular phrase is located. He has to mark and highlight things. I just associate each passage in a book with a particular feeling/color/taste which is associated with a page number, and bang, there it is. It seems so simple, but he really can't do it.
That probably sounds bizarre, but I only realized it was strange when other people said they did not experience things in the same way and were confused when I tried to explain. The psychologist, on the other hand, jumped up and down with excitement when I happened to mention this in passing (I really didn't think it was important) because he had been stymied as to why I was not improving after two years of treatment. He suspected that the synesthesia resulted from abnormal connections between my temporal lobe and limbic system. If this was the case, then some of my mental health issues weren't so much emotional as strictly neurological.
It really helped, knowing that.
And I do hope I'm dealing with my HSP kids appropriately. I make sure they get enough space and quiet when they need it. The older one feels left out of ordinary teenage life by being an introvert, as if he's doing it "wrong". You know, the stereotype of teens and their wild parties, which sounds like a total nightmare to him. I tell him that it's perfectly okay if books, art and quiet conversation is his version of fun. If it's fun for you, it's fun for you, no matter what the stereotypes say.
We have a book called "the introvert advantage" which is quite good.