I agree wholeheartedly with Three Roses: when we're forced to make a big decision like this one, we can then spend a very long time questioning whether we jumped the right way. This is a waste of the emotional energy we need to re-establish ourselves in the new situation, so "stick to it and have an end goal in sight" is good policy.
This suggests you'd been gathering data for a long time, until you got the Decider. All these "brand new burdens" take their toll, so be easy on yourself, know that you've done the right thing, BREATHE and keep going through the motions.
I hear you, sister. A move like this is an attack on identity, and IME we never can go back to the less-challenged self who handled everything more easily. We have to learn new ways of coping, and we can't unlearn them. The new, improved version is still ahead of us, but it's messy in the meantime. Personal growth is messy.
to you. You've survived so much and you'll go on surviving. You'll get through this.
Quote from: reverie on September 11, 2017, 12:13:24 AM
I left. Just grabbed some clothes and my kids, got in the car....and left.
This suggests you'd been gathering data for a long time, until you got the Decider. All these "brand new burdens" take their toll, so be easy on yourself, know that you've done the right thing, BREATHE and keep going through the motions.
QuoteI never want to see them again but I have to. and i'm scared. and i'm angry that i'm scared.
I just want to be myself again so much!
I hear you, sister. A move like this is an attack on identity, and IME we never can go back to the less-challenged self who handled everything more easily. We have to learn new ways of coping, and we can't unlearn them. The new, improved version is still ahead of us, but it's messy in the meantime. Personal growth is messy.
to you. You've survived so much and you'll go on surviving. You'll get through this.