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#16
Recovery Journals / Re: Forging New Paths
April 23, 2024, 08:30:00 PM
I enjoyed my day for the most part today. I did get a bit tired physically, which is not so enjoyable, but it's also nothing terrible.

In occup. therapy, my therapist was late - very unusual, in fact the first time ever. Me - late, that's not so unusual. I used the waiting time to write something in my paper Journal that I really wanted to write before I forgot and then I did a bunch of EFT (tapping), partly because of having to wait - that kind of ruffled the feathers of some part of me, tho in my head it wasn't a big deal. Feelings (including from the past) versus thoughts. I know occ.T well enough to know that this isn't going to become a trend and also to know that it had nothing whatsoever to do with me. Once I get going, my hands went straight into gloopy paint and onto paper. I yawn a lot, something gets released or at least there's some emotional movement, altho I don't know so far what cognitively. It doesn't matter, I don't always have to know.

I ran some errands - or attempted to - in the afternoon, which included having a nice walk along the local river. It's chilly, but no rain or sleet, in fact there was the occasional glimpse of sun. I was really tired in the late afternoon/early evening but I decided to go to choir practice anyway, tho I did waver in my decision-making, but then finally: choir practice! I haven't been for a couple of weeks, but we're singing on Sunday and I'll be singing too. I can manage that now - one practice and then sing with the rest.

So today I was involved with art and music  :cheer:  They're both good for me, but sometimes difficult too.

My new trauma T emailed that she's sick this week, so no appt this week after all, is that OK? ;D Fortunately I'm doing fairly well this week, so just think to myself "Not an awful lot I or my new T could do about it if it wasn't OK!"
#17
Infancy trauma here too. But I don't want to write it out this evening, don't feel up to it. It will be in other posts of mine or my Journals. Just saying - yup, it exists.
#18
Yeah sorry, I should have worded differently. These things are always free during the 5-day period (or however long) the presentations are running. Then they cost money.

#19
Quote from: Chart on April 21, 2024, 09:30:26 AMI am as utterly lost as I have ever been. I literally don't know what to do except doing as little as possible. I live on this forum. I literally live on this forum. I keep rereading stuff, I keep rereading my own posts, I keep searching in old posts. ... This forum has almost become my only support. I try to participate and support others but I feel I'm not that good at supporting others right now. Maybe that's my inner critic. ...  When what I really need right now is to be held, hugged, loved by the woman I broke up with eight months ago. I so desperately need to be loved. And I so deeply feel utterly unworthy of being loved.

Me again. I'm responding to this because I hear you, hear your desperation. I'm not worried for your life or anything like that. We used to have a "Very Difficult Day" thread on the forum, not anymore for various reasons, but if we still had it, this post of yours would belong on it and you'd get the support mbrs can give - being read, acknowledged  :hug:  :bighug:  :grouphug: 
As well as reminders because it's easy to not be able to reach this knowledge when in a semi-permanent EF: Of course you are worthy of being loved; hard to believe, but this state you are in will change, it will get better, you will come back out and see that the Storm has lessened. 8-force wind is not pleasant but better and a little safer than 10-force.

Please do not feel that you need to respond to others on the forum rn, especially not in order to support others! When you are able to, you will. If you want to, an emoji is more than enough. What I'm saying is: Here on this forum, you don't have to support others in order to get support yourself when you're in a really bad way.

I also hear that in spite of everything, you are actively trying :cheer:  - thinking about bike ride, doing a little meditation. It really is OK to do nothing, to just allow yourself to recuperate and rest! Other possibilities that can help: Note one Good Thing per Day. Or one instance of Joy per Day. (Or more of course.) There are threads on the forum which can give you ideas of what a Good Thing or a Joy could be. It's not positive-thinking, it's focussing the mind for a couple of minutes on something soothing, non-triggering, possibly even emotionally-strengthening for YOU. These tools are very useful for me, they may not be for you. It's also OK to ignore my suggestion - it's all OK. It is also perfectly OK to more or less live on the forum. Some mbrs don't - nice for them. Others need it. It's a support for you - use it! :grouphug:
#20
Please Introduce Yourself Here / Re: Hi (maybe TW?)
April 20, 2024, 09:38:55 PM
Hello meanwhileup,

Welcome to the forum :heythere:  You don't need an official diagnosis to be a member here. Nor do you need to have had a breakdown, although lots of us have.

I'm sorry you had a difficult childhood. Children can be traumatised by neglect not just by abuse. Even if the neglect came through parental illness - still not enough of your totally normal childhood needs were met.

It's a very supportive forum here, I hope you'll find that too.

Also don't worry, I don't see any oversharing in your first post or even a reason for a trigger warning tbh. This forum is very gentle, if you overstep, especially as a newbie but for all members really, nothing bad is going to happen to you, your post will be moderated a little and you'll get a PM but no flashing red lights or other triggering stuff.
#21
1) I did my meditation
2) I took my meds
3) I made it into town centre before noon and experienced some flow - one good thing followed another, none of which would have happened if I hadn't gone out of the house after all!
4) On and off :sunny:  :sunny:  is better than none at all, especially when unexpected :)
#22
https://trustingaftertraumasummit.com/

For survivors of Childhood Narc Abuse.

By Dr. Meg Haworth and others.

I got notification of this, I'm not signing up, but others on here might be interested.
#23
Conferences/Courses / Re: Rewiring the Brain Summit
April 20, 2024, 02:14:28 PM
 :thumbup:  :thumbup:

I've signed up - might watch a thing or two.
#24
The Cafe / Re: Chuckle for the Day
April 19, 2024, 08:38:12 PM
Train delayed by geese on the line ;D

https://www.bbc.com/news/uk-england-london-68855223
#25
Recovery Journals / Re: My journey so far
April 19, 2024, 05:34:46 PM
Quote from: Little2Nothing on April 19, 2024, 03:53:47 PMToday there is a calming breeze and I am sitting here enjoying its freshness. Bees are hovering around the bush by the window and it is somewhat soothing to watch them be busy doing their jobs. Right now I can see the beauty of nature all around me, it started with a gorgeous sunrise. The cheerful song of God's feathered songsters brought tears to my eyes.

I am grateful for this respite. It is as if God directed everything around me to speak peace to me today. These days are far and few between, but when they come it gives me hope. Not everything is ugly and cruel. I just wanted to share something positive.
:)  :)

I like to read positive things in among the horrors. I especially like descriptions of nature and animals, including bees and my favourite bumblebees.

I'm happy your environment is speaking peace today and that you are feeling hope. :sunny:
#26
Depression / Re: Back to black
April 19, 2024, 05:06:07 PM
 :bighug:  :bighug:

I hear you.

I know it's really hard to believe but things will get better bit by tiny bit.

Sending lots of good healing energy from here on OOTS :grouphug:
#27
Poetry & Creative Writing / Re: We'll miss her
April 19, 2024, 04:49:29 AM
That might come (back) to adult you, blue. There's always hope. Especially in the creativity department :hug:  I feel kind of sad writing this though :'(
#28
I listened to a bit of one session yesterday. :aaauuugh:  :aaauuugh: There was a guest speaker or some such "de-bunking" myths on memory. It was probably meant to be helpful but he struck me as a guru-type who comes along and says: "you know all that stuff everybody else taught you? All wrong! You gotta listen to me if you want to heal". Of course, that's probably not what he said or even meant but that's what I understood within the space of 2 minutes, turned the thing off and went back to the course I paid for, which is better for me anyway!

But generally I have found Avaiya sessions helpful.
#29
I've just signed up too. Why not? There might be something useful/interesting.
#30
Recovery Journals / Re: Forging New Paths
April 18, 2024, 05:00:07 PM
Quote from: Blueberry on March 23, 2024, 04:43:52 PMI have started the course. Finally, in earnest, today. That is, I've dedicated a notebook for writing stuff, especially homework / being honest with myself + whatever else comes up and/or occurs to me. I might sometimes write about something on here or more likely on my private Journal
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More importantly for me, doing this course is part of my attempt to improve my self-discipline of doing things for ME, of taking those healing steps regularly, making a habit out of them, getting back up again and setting off again when I've fallen on my nose or just stopped practising for whatever reason. 
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Back on the bolded bit again today after idk 3-week break, tho it wasn't a planned break of course...