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Podcasts, Videos & Documentaries / Re: Conference on Trauma starting 21st September 2019 - free to view
« on: September 19, 2019, 08:15:09 PM »
Tks Hope 
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Therapy / Re: I don't think this is a good fit
« on: September 19, 2019, 01:56:16 PM »
and That is great self-care Gromit, tks for sharing it here.
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Ideas/Tools for Recovery / Re: The case for choosing to be open and remain vulnerable
« on: September 19, 2019, 01:53:04 PM »
Could not agree more bluepalm, well said!
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Introductory Post / Re: Hello
« on: September 18, 2019, 02:48:58 PM »
Hi and a warm welcome to OOTS Ambassador! 
I echo what others have said here, abuse comes in many forms, but what happens to us at our core is the same and it's why we share the same symptoms.
I echo what others have said here, abuse comes in many forms, but what happens to us at our core is the same and it's why we share the same symptoms.
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Family of Origin (FOO) / Re: I unblocked their email addresses
« on: September 18, 2019, 02:39:24 PM »
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SOT - Sense of Threat (eg Hypervigilance) / Re: Tensing and holding breath
« on: September 17, 2019, 07:21:36 PM »
It's a darn good article, tks for finding and sharing it Gromit lol 
Yes I think we could all do with a bit more fun and shake out the tension!
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And isn't that what somatic experiencing is partly about? Shaking out the tension just like animals do?
Yes I think we could all do with a bit more fun and shake out the tension!
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Family of Origin (FOO) / Re: I unblocked their email addresses
« on: September 17, 2019, 07:07:51 PM »
I'm sorry there wasn't any acknowledgement of the part they played in things and that they put it all on you Gromit, my M is the same and I know how that feels 
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If my M were to do this, I would see it (nowadays) not as a conciliatory move (opening the door), but more a move to shore up her position. "I did nothing wrong but I'll be the bigger person and reach out to my overly sensitive daughter." It's a covert way of saying I'm to blame and it's up me to fix things.
and If my M were to do this, I would see it (nowadays) not as a conciliatory move (opening the door), but more a move to shore up her position. "I did nothing wrong but I'll be the bigger person and reach out to my overly sensitive daughter." It's a covert way of saying I'm to blame and it's up me to fix things.
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General Discussion / Re: the curve
« on: September 17, 2019, 06:52:34 PM » Hoping talking here and being heard and supported will help James.
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SOT - Sense of Threat (eg Hypervigilance) / Re: Tensing and holding breath
« on: September 16, 2019, 06:51:20 PM »
There's an article about scoliosis and armouring here that you might find helpful Gromit. I'm not sure about the scoliosis part but the connection between relational trauma and armouring is spot on IMO.
This really resonated with me:
I spent my growing up years after my mother’s death suppressing and pretending. Blocked my mind from feeling my hurts. I effectively armored my psyche and created another persona in order to avoid being totally annihilated.
Armouring physically and psychologically is a way of protecting the self from trauma and potentially the death of self.
Just a side note - somatic experiencing (Peter Levine) is all about releasing the trapped energy of past trauma - I haven't tried it yet but am hoping to once we move.
This really resonated with me:
I spent my growing up years after my mother’s death suppressing and pretending. Blocked my mind from feeling my hurts. I effectively armored my psyche and created another persona in order to avoid being totally annihilated.
Armouring physically and psychologically is a way of protecting the self from trauma and potentially the death of self.
Just a side note - somatic experiencing (Peter Levine) is all about releasing the trapped energy of past trauma - I haven't tried it yet but am hoping to once we move.
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Eating Issues / James Corden on Fat Shaming
« on: September 16, 2019, 06:38:33 PM »
James Corden on fat shaming - Corden responds to Bill Maher's truly awful segment about bringing back fat shaming.
Well done James C, well done!
Well done James C, well done!
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General Discussion / Re: the curve
« on: September 16, 2019, 06:31:06 PM »
So very sorry to hear this James
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Symptoms - Other / Re: Feeling entitled to breathe
« on: September 16, 2019, 06:24:46 PM »Quote
I literally could hike miles and miles in the city in which I was born without breath issues; then around FOO, it kicked in. The hyper-vigilance alluded to by bluepalm was another routine happening wherein my breathing became shallow and feeble.
So telling ... It's just sad how much fear/pain we had as children, and how small and contained we had to become to survive.
for you WG.