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United Kingdom / Norwich & Great Yarmouth - The Sue Lambert Trust

« on: June 30, 2019, 04:30:57 PM »

The Sue Lambert Trust is a Norfolk based charity which provides support for survivors of sexual abuse. We offer a range of services including one to one counselling, practical and emotional support and group work.  We also run this website and a blog as a source of support and information.

We are a non-judgemental organisation, our services are available to anybody aged 11+, and for as long as they are needed.  Much of our counselling and support work is done in Norwich, but we also have premises in Great Yarmouth.

We are a charity, our professional counsellors are all volunteers, and we do not charge for our services however we ask clients to please pay what they can towards the cost of their counselling sessions.

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General Discussion / Rough Week

« on: June 28, 2019, 03:11:11 PM »

This week has been especially tough in terms of my relationship with my H.  He came down with a nasty infection that required three visits to the ER which is about 40 mins from where we live. That was not a problem at all, I am great in an emergency but in the midst of all that came 2 offers on our house.  Not a problem either but it does add up.  What got to me is that I am married to a man who does not like to be dependent and does not take kindly to being brought to his knees by pain.

I struggled with him over everything from telling the doctor how bad things were (he minimized the pain which I understand is related to his gender, military and family training but it doesn't get you the pain meds and required a 2nd trip to the ER and my having to step in and tell the doc what it was really like when once again he would not fess up), to meds, to eating and drinking fluids, to well, everything.

Part of me totally understood he was in pain and this was so hard for him but another part shot back into being a child and teen at home when my NPD/alcoholic F would control and dominate me and nothing I did was ever right or good enough.  I fought it but eventually on the last trip into the ER I spilled tea all over myself on the drive in and lost it.  Whoa, what is this telling me? I am overtired and angry at my H and need to tell him and I did. I wish all of me could have stayed calm and objective, but the fact of the matter is my trauma is still there and won't let me just yet. 

At least when I did 'have words" with my H I was able to tell him exactly what was wrong and why and that he needed to back off, let me take care of him, show some appreciation and stop arguing about every little thing.  I also told him I loved him and understood he was in a lot of pain.  Fair enough.

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DR - Disturbed Relationships (eg Social Anxiety, Isolating, Attachment Disorder) / Info About Disturbed Relationships

« on: June 26, 2019, 06:56:06 PM »

Attachment and C-PTSD: How Complex Trauma Gets in the Way (March, 2018), Fabiana Franco, PhD

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Books & Articles / MOVED: Re: Adult Survivors of Child Abuse ~ The Morris Center

« on: June 24, 2019, 04:11:30 PM »

This topic has been moved to Introductory Post.

https://cptsd.org/forum/index.php?topic=12055.0

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General Discussion / MOVED: Lack of dreams - what does it mean / impact?

« on: June 19, 2019, 07:22:25 PM »

This topic has been moved to Sleep Issues.

https://cptsd.org/forum/index.php?topic=11770.0

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Suicide Ideation/Self Harm / MOVED: Having a Really Tough Time -TW warning

« on: June 18, 2019, 05:52:21 PM »

This topic has been moved to Having an Exceptionally Difficult Day.

https://cptsd.org/forum/index.php?topic=12033.0

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Therapy / Info about Ending Therapy

« on: June 17, 2019, 06:59:58 PM »

How to Leave Your Practitioner, Sonia Connolly, June 2019

Terminating Therapy, Part I: What, Why, How?, Ryan Howes, Sept 2008 

Terminating Therapy, Part II: The Ideal Termination. What's the best reason to end therapy? Ryan Howes, Oct 2008

Terminating Therapy, Part III: The Not-Quite-Ideal Termination. Ending therapy on a sour note. Ryan Howes, Oct 2008

Terminating Therapy, Part IV: How to Terminate. How to end therapy. Ryan Howes, Oct 2008

Terminating Therapy, Part V: Therapist Termination. When your therapist says farewell. Ryan Howes, Jul 2014

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Discussion About Psychoactive Substances / Information about Psychoactive Medication

« on: June 13, 2019, 12:13:36 AM »

MAPS (Multidisciplinary Association for Psychedelic Studies) - a 501(c)(3) non-profit research and educational organization that develops medical, legal, and cultural contexts for people to benefit from the careful uses of psychedelics and marijuana.

MDMA-assisted psychotherapy for treatment of PTSD: study design and rationale for phase 3 trials based on pooled analysis of six phase 2 randomized controlled trials, May 2019.  Note: This article concerns MDMA trials for PTSD vs Complex PTSD

Statement: Considerations for the Regulation and Decriminalization of Psychedelic Substances, May 31, 2019. By Natalie Lyla Ginsberg, M.S.W., and Ismail Lourido Ali, J.D.

Scientists are reclaiming psychedelics as “wonder drugs.” Is it time to decriminalize them?,  June 6, 2019 - Video by Michael Tabb

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Announcements / Working Through Complex PTSD

« on: June 10, 2019, 05:48:18 PM »

BeHea1thy has started a thread about a workbook on recovering from Complex PTSD published by the Morris Centre.  It’s free so you can download it or just follow the steps BH has kindly copied and pasted and then talk about your progress with others if you’re so inclined -  https://cptsd.org/forum/index.php?topic=12011.0;topicseen.  You can go at your own pace, no need to do each step as a group. 

Note: It’s a step program but unlike the 12 steps of AA/Al Anon/ACOA where you are required to take responsibility for your behaviour & the harm you have caused others, it’s about recognizing you had no responsibility for the abuse/neglect you endured. 

Two other things to point out are: a) recovery/healing is not linear and we may go backward and forward throughout the process; and, b) it may be an idea to let your T know you are working on this or work together with them, especially if you are in the early stages of recovery. 

Tks BeHea1thy!   

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Personality Disorder/Mental Illness (Perpetrator) / Tug of War

« on: May 24, 2019, 09:40:13 PM »

Monday we're heading across the country to attend our son's convocation and while there will celebrate my NPDM's 90 birthday.  My emotions are in a tug of war right now b/c I'm excited to see our S but dreading seeing my M (it's been 2+ yrs b/c we are low contact). There's also a tug of war between the part of me that wants to celebrate her 90th and the parts that were and are deeply wounded by her and don't.   

Understandably I'm feeling irritable and strained already. Such is the internal war of Complex PTSD - sigh.

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Religious/Cult Abuse / Cult-like Motivational/Self-help Coaches

« on: May 17, 2019, 05:56:40 PM »

Article about Tony Robbins, the well known motivational speaker who has been accused of being abusive - https://www.buzzfeednews.com/article/janebradley/tony-robbins-self-help-secrets.

The #MeToo movement has triggered reckonings inside a wide range of professions where men hold sway. Scandal after scandal has engulfed Hollywood giants, politicians, and CEOs, forcing a major change in the politics of sex and power. But the self-help industry, which generates billions of dollars every year, has faced little scrutiny.

Licensed professionals who treat mental health issues must undergo extensive training and follow strict ethical guidelines governing their relations with their clients. Self-help coaching requires no such qualifications or standards. But it creates a potent recipe for the abuse of power, setting its leading lights up as godlike figures with answers to life’s most painful questions, and placing the supplicants who seek their wisdom in their thrall.

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United Kingdom / UK - Body and Soul Charity

« on: May 15, 2019, 05:31:33 PM »

The Body and Soul Charity "provides "direct therapeutic interventions, either 1-to-1 or in small groups, including integrative psychotherapy, systemic family therapy, life-coaching, DBT, EMDR, arts/creative therapies and a range of complementary therapies; practical social work and advocacy (e.g. housing and benefit support); specialist legal advice and casework from a panel of pro bono solicitors (e.g. immigration appeals, employment); and a rich programme of workshops, talks and small discussion groups."

This organization is AWESOME!   

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United States / US - The Center on Trauma and Adversity

« on: May 15, 2019, 05:00:17 PM »

The Center on Trauma and Adversity is training and research center at the Jack, Joseph and Morton Mandel School of Applied Social Sciences at Case Western Reserve University in Cleveland, Ohio.  Its mission is to conduct trauma-focused research and train social workers "who can effectively assess, intervene, and treat people and communities affected by trauma—to help them experience healing, overcome adversity, reduce suffering, and achieve recovery and resilience."

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Announcements / Guideline re Swearing Updated

« on: May 14, 2019, 06:16:51 PM »

Please note that the guideline regarding swearing has been updated as follows:

Swearing - Many members find swearing triggering so it is not permitted in any form. There is a filter in place to screen out most swear words, but it does not pick up words that use a combination of letters and symbols (e.g., f**k). If you do come across this please use the “Report to Moderator” button at the bottom right of the post. We will then edit it out and PM the poster. (Note: We do not ever reveal who has reported a post.)

It was the case in the past that a full symbol mash (e.g., &*^%$) was an acceptable form of swearing whereas a mix of letters and symbols was not (e.g., f**k). However, too often Moderators have to edit out the latter so making all forms of swearing off limits will hopefully make things clearer. 

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Mother's/Father's Day / A Love Letter to Cycle Breaking Heroes

« on: May 11, 2019, 05:38:34 PM »

"A Love Letter to Cycle Breaking Heroes" by Annie Reneau is a poignant reminder that many of us do break the cycle of abuse AND our children are aware of our efforts and love and respect us for it - https://www.motherhoodandmore.com/