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I came across a site about a surf dog competition in Huntington Beach CA, US that absolutely made my IC laugh out loud.  http://surfcitysurfdog.com/.  I so want to go!   
   

[Giving/Receiving Advice]

Hi Everyone:

Every once in a while we add a reminder here about certain guidelines if we see that people are beginning to stray a bit. The Mod Team is seeing a tendency for members to give advice rather than make suggestions and share their own experience so we are posting a reminder here to encourage members to follow our guideline.

The difference between giving advice and making a suggestion is saying for example, "You should do so and so" and "What about trying XXXX?   I did that in XXXXXX situation and it worked well for me." 

Or,

"You are dissociating and you should .........."  versus "It may be that what you are experiencing is dissociation which as I understand is XXXXXXXXX.  I would dissociate when XXXXXXXX happened and here's what I did to help myself - XXXXXXXXX.  There are some resources here --links --- if you want to have a look and see if that's what you might be experiencing." 

Here is the actual section in our Member Guidelines (http://outofthefog.net/C-PTSD/forum/index.php?topic=1616.0):


Giving/Receiving Advice

While we encourage members to support and encourage others in theirs recovery, it is important to remember that we are each here to work on our own recovery first and foremost.  Many of us with CPTSD have been trained to be caretakers and recovery for us involves resisting the temptation to do so here at OOTS.   

Feel free to share how you cope or have coped with various situations and to make suggestions (as long as they are phrased as such) - that's the purpose of this forum, but please don't make blanket statements like "You *should* do this and that" based on what you think and/or have read in the resources about CPTSD.  Another person's situation may be very different from yours.  Often, people need to come to their own conclusions in their own time frame. We are all coming from different stages, situations, and backgrounds.

If a pattern of giving too much advice to others and not focusing on one's own recovery is noted, the member will be warned and if the behaviour persists, possibly banned.

This topic has been moved to General Discussion about CPTSD.

http://outofthefog.net/C-PTSD/forum/index.php?topic=1810.0

This topic has been moved to The Cafe.

http://outofthefog.net/C-PTSD/forum/index.php?topic=1802.0

This topic has been moved to Technical Information and Questions.

http://outofthefog.net/C-PTSD/forum/index.php?topic=1813.0

[Note:]

Note:  Articles moved to "Information about Emotional Abuse" at http://outofthefog.net/C-PTSD/forum/index.php?topic=2567.0

Part 2 of the original thread "Today I feel ....."

Please help us to keep OOTS a safe, considerate and respectful community by reporting any posts that contravene our Member Guidelines. Some of the more common problems we see include:

•   No trigger warning is given when one is needed
•   The post contains overly graphic detail
•   Telling another member what they should do (versus suggesting a strategy, sharing what worked for them)
•   The tone of the post is Inappropriate tone (defensive, argumentative, disrespectful...)
•   The post hijacks the thread (turns attention away from the original post/poster)
•   Posting about wanting to commit suicide or engage in serious self-harm

All you need to do is click on the "Report to Moderator" button on the lower right hand side of the post, make a comment about what it is that you think is questionable or problematic when the dialogue box pops us, and the Moderating Team will take it from there.  Please note that we never reveal to anyone outside the team who has reported a post. 

If you have any questions about the above, please feel free to PM one of the Moderation Team.

Thank you!

Kizzie

[Illnesses/Diseases in Adulthood]

This sub-forum or "child board" is for the discussion of physical and/or psychological issues and comorbidities relating which (you think) are related to your CPTSD. Just to clarify, in medicine "comorbidity" refers to the existence of one or more psychological and/or physical diseases or disorders which co-occur with a primary disorder.  Comorbidities may be independent of one another or related to/caused by the primary disorder/disease, but what is important in terms of treatment is the complexities involved and overall impact on a patient's health.   Some of the comorbidities which have been associated with CPTSD include: eating disorders, addiction, anxiety and depression, obesity, self-harm, and suicidality.

Illnesses/Diseases in Adulthood

Danese, A. & van Harmelen, A. (2017). The hidden wounds of childhood trauma, European Journal of Psychotraumatology, 8(7).  This article explores the notion that childhood psychological trauma triggers an inflammatory response in the body to prepare it to face potential physical injury, and that this can lead to diseases/illnesses in adulthood.

Suicidality and Self-Harm

Ford J. D. & Gómez, J. (2015). The relationship of psychological trauma and dissociative and posttraumatic stress disorders to nonsuicidal self-Injury and suicidality: A review. Journal of Trauma & Dissociation, 16(3), 232-271

We have a lot of forums here at OOTS so it's easy to forget where you have made a post, but there are a number of ways you can locate your posts and/or be notified about replies to your posts.

Finding your posts - Click on "Profile" then on your "Posts" which will bring up all the posts you have made in all of the forums.

Replies to your posts - There are two ways of viewing replies to your posts.  You can click on "Notify" on the bottom right of any post you make, or if you look on the top left of the screen under your "Welcome" banner you can click on "Show new replies to your posts"

[Reference:]

Reference: Dr. C. Courtois - http://giftfromwithin.org/html/cptsd-understanding-treatment.html

Complex PTSD results from traumatic events and experiences that are:

(1) repetitive, prolonged, or cumulative

(2 ) most often interpersonal, involving direct harm, exploitation, and maltreatment including neglect/abandonment/antipathy by primary caregivers or other ostensibly responsible adults, and

(3) often occur at developmentally vulnerable times in the victim's life, especially in early childhood or adolescence, but can also occur later in life and in conditions of vulnerability associated with disability/ disempowerment/dependency/age /infirmity, and so on.

Child abuse of all types (physical, sexual, emotional, and neglect) within the family is the most common form of chronic interpersonal victimization. Such abuse is often founded on problematic and insecure attachment relationships (between parent and child or others who have primary caretaking responsibilities). Parents and other caregivers who abuse exploit a child's physical and emotional immaturity and dependent status to meet their own needs or do so in response to their own inadequacies or distress, quite often their own history of unresolved trauma and/or loss.

Rather than creating conditions of protection and security within the relationship, abuse by primary attachment figures instead becomes the cause of great distress and creates conditions of gross insecurity and instability for the child including misgivings about the trustworthiness of others....

Rather than having a secure and relatively carefree childhood, abused children are worried and hypervigilant. The psychological energy that would normally go to learning and development instead goes to coping and survival.....

Child abuse, occurring in the context of essential relationships, involves significant betrayal of the responsibilities of those relationships...

[If you are a child or youth]

Out of the Storm (OOTS) is an anonymous discussion group and resource site for adult survivors of ongoing relational trauma (abuse/neglect) who suffer from Complex Post Traumatic Disorder (CPTSD) as a result.  (Note: You do not require a diagnosis from a mental health professional to join.) Members come from all around the world. 

Please note that members are not medical or mental health professionals, and the forum is not intended to be a substitute or replacement for professional therapy or mental health services. If you are in crisis, please do not wait. Reach out for help - it's out there for you. Call your doctor, go to the nearest Emergency Room, call a hotline or look for some assistance here. 

If you are a child or youth experiencing abuse/neglect and don't know what to do, please go to Child Helpline International, and call the number of the help line closest to you.  These organizations have trained staff who will listen and support you, and if you want they will help you figure out what to do.  Please don't wait, pick up the phone. You can change the ways things are with help and support!

If you are an adult , OOTS is a community of peers who share information about our understanding of and experiences with CPTSD, and support one another as we move forward in learning, healing and recovering.  Non- survivors are welcome to read but may not join the forum.

GETTING STARTED

Read the Member Guidelines - Please begin by reading through our Guidelines for Members. We do try and keep the forum as safe as possible; not following the guidelines may lead to being banned so it is important to read them. 

Read about CPTSD - Please have a look through the web page section of the site, in particular the section  "About Complex PTSD."    There are also a number of useful forms in the "Resources" section under "Downloads" that you may wish to print out, in particular the forms "Symptom Tracker" and "Causes of CPTSD." These forms can be useful to take to  your physician or therapist. 

Begin Posting - Once you're ready, please post about yourself and your situation in the Introductions section so that members can begin to get to know you. As per our guidelines please avoid being overly graphic about your experiences, but sometimes because of the trauma we've been through we venture into territory that may be triggering. The words "Trigger Warning" in the title of your post will help alert members so they can choose to avoid reading disturbing posts they may not be willing/able to hear about at their stage of recovery. If a post is too graphic it may be edited or removed. 

If you're a bit nervous making that first few post, not to worry it's a common feeling and for most of us that eases. One way to start if you're not quite ready to talk about your trauma and CPTSD is to post in the "What's in a Name" thread.  We're always interested to know why members chose the usernames they did 

Again, welcome and we hope you find the information you need to move 'out of the storm' that is CPTSD.

[Welcome to Out of the Storm (OOTS)]

Welcome to Out of the Storm (OOTS)

This web site is intended to provide credible information about Relational Trauma Response (Complex PTSD), raise awareness, contribute to prevention efforts, and join with other organizations in calling for more trauma informed treatment, services and support.

The forum is intended to help those with Relational Trauma Response (Complex PTSD) to: connect with peers and move out of isolation; give and receive support; contribute knowledge about the experience of living with and recovering from the disorder; and learn from one another.  A recovery focus is encouraged, as is respect for and consideration of others.

Please note that the forum is intended for survivors only. Non-survivors are welcome to read but may not join.

Disclaimer

The authors and members of this site are not medical or mental health professionals, and the site and discussion board are not intended to be a substitute or replacement for professional therapy or mental health services.

Terms of Use

By joining this forum you agree to abide by the OOTS Member Guidelines and give the Site Administrator permission to retain, edit or delete any of your posts that contravene these guidelines. Administrators and others (e.g., researchers, authors) are not permitted to use/publish posts in any other context without the explicit written permission of the poster. In cases where a poster has left the forum and cannot be reached, permission may be granted by the Site Administrator.

Administration & Moderation of the Board

The Site Administrator has overall control of everything that happens on the board; how the board is styled, what forums to create and how to organize them. Members are asked to report posts which contravene Member Guidelines in order to keep this space safe, respectful and recovery focused. (Note: Reports are confidential and the identity of the member making the report will not be revealed.) Reported posts are actioned accordingly by the Site Administrator (e.g., post will be edited or in some cases deleted and the poster will be informed).

In the case of posts which contravene the guidelines outlined below, an informal/formal warning may be issued, and if the member does not alter their posting behaviour in additional posts, they will be banned. If the post is egregious enough or made by a spammers/trolls, no warning will be issued and the member will be banned immediately.

Discussion of administrative/moderating decisions is not allowed on the board and posts of this nature will be removed immediately. Disagreements with any action taken must be taken up with the Site Administrator (OOTSManager@gmail.com).  Rude/disrespectful behaviour toward the Administrator or forum members will result in the member being banned. 

Getting Started

Begin by making a post in the "Welcome to OOTS" forum and tell members about how you developed Relational Trauma Response (Complex PTSD), what is your current situation, and what you have been doing or hope to do in terms of recovery and healing.  We strongly recommend using a username (short if possible please) rather than your real name and avoid including any personal information that could be used to identify you (e.g., where you live, details of your life). 

Posts that will be Edited/Removed

Our focus here is on recovery and considerate and respectful discussion is emphasized.  As such, posts will be edited or removed which include:

• nonsensical, demanding,  argumentative, offensive, aggressive/violent, suspected trolling, and/or manipulative attention-seeking (playing on members emotions to get responses; this is different from reaching out for care and support which we do encourage);
• overly graphic content/details/words and/or offensive language;
• anything about hurting others or language which demeans others (it's ok to say "X behaves like a jerk and they make me so angry" but not "X is a jerk and I just want to hit them"
• telling members what they should/should not do
• advertisements/solicitations for products and/or services including fee based counseling/therapy;
• sexually explicit, adult-oriented material; and,
• religious references/comments in any other context than the member's own beliefs (e.g., saying "God loves you" or "Bless you" in not acceptable because many survivors have been traumatized by religion).
• discussions of politics except in the context of how it affects a member's CPTSD

Double posts are not allowed and will also be removed.

Posts about Suicide/Self-Harm

For the safety and well-being of all members, posts about wanting to commit suicide and/or inflict serious self-harm are not permitted at OOTS.  Posts about either topic may only be very general in nature and any graphic content will be edited or removed.  Posts which do discuss any current desire/intent will be removed and the member will be advised to contact their physician or therapist, a local Emergency Room or any of the organizations listed  here. 

General posts about suicide and/or self-harm are restricted to this forum and members' journals.  Posts made in any other forums will be edited, moved or removed. 

Posts about Committing Violence/Harming Others

Posts about wanting to cause harm to someone else in the present or future are not allowed and will be edited/removed immediately. While it is understandable that many of us have a lot of anger we need to express, talk about harming another or violence in general perpetuates the very thing we are are here to move away from.  Please report any posts or PMs of this nature.

Modifying and Removing Posts

Currently OOTS members may "Modify" and "Remove" their own posts.  This is different than most others discussion forums.  Our reason for allowing this is that members very often feel vulnerable by speaking up about their feelings and the trauma and abuse they went through.  Being able to modify and/or remove posts provides a measure of safety and control.

This does have a downside as modifying and removing used often and/or in large amounts (e.g., removing all posts when a member leaves the site), can leave gaps in the threads and/or disrupt the flow and meaning of threads. We ask that you take this into consideration before you do remove/edit posts, but at the same time we encourage you to use "Modify" and/or "Remove' in a manner that helps you to feel safe and less vulnerable.   

Posting Style Guide

Most of us come here seeking validation from others who have been in similar situations. It can be a tremendous feeling to read an encouragement from another member who has read your post. If you want to have your post read and responded to by others here are a few helpful tips:

• Pay attention to grammar and format.Write in full sentences, use punctuation, spell check and use emoticons and special fonts sparingly.


• Use a plain font - and don't use colour, size, bolding, etc., for the whole of your posts as this can be hard on the eyes.  A few words here and there to emphasize something is fine.


• Keep your posts short. Although there are times when a post may need to be longer, members are encouraged to keep posts to 2 - 3 paragraphs as a rule of thumb.  If your posts tend to fill more than an entire computer screen, some readers may be tempted to "speed read" or skip to the end. Further, long posts tends to flood the board if made regularly so that the member begins to dominate the board and quieter members may not feel they have a chance to weigh in.


• Don't post a huge block of text 20-50 lines long with no line breaks. Many people find that very difficult to read and will ignore your post. Use paragraphs to break up text and break up text with a double return to create extra space between paragraphs. Moderators may edit posts that do not have include paragraphs to make them more readable. Overall please try and keep most of your posts to a reasonable length (2-3 paragraphs maximum).


• DON'T POST IN ALL CAPS. MANY PEOPLE FIND IT HARD TO READ BLOCKS OF TEXT WHICH HAVE BEEN WRITTEN IN ALL CAPS AND SOME PEOPLE INTERPRET THIS AS SHOUTING. As appropriate, moderators may edit the text formatting of posts (e.g. "block of text" or ALL CAPS) to make them more readable for members.

Offensive, demeaning and/or inappropriate language - This includes any language that is: reactive, defensive, provocative, inflammatory and/or hateful; and/or, is demeaning of others on the forum or in general (e.g., sexist, racist, homophobic, transphobic, calling someone a derogatory or demeaning name such as "jackass"). Most if not all members of OOTS have been demeaned through language in one way or another and as such, we require that posts be written in a respectful and considerate manner.

Swearing - Many members find swearing triggering so it is not permitted in any form at OOTS. There is a filter in place to screen out most swear words, but it does not pick up words that use a combination of letters and symbols (e.g., f**k). If you do come across this please use the "Report to Moderator" button at the bottom right of the post. We will then edit it out and PM the poster. (Note: We do not ever reveal who has reported a post.)

Overly Graphic/Detailed Posts  - OOTS members are survivors of ongoing trauma and emotional/ physical/ sexual abuse. As such, detailed/graphic accounts of the trauma/abuse can trigger painful emotional flashbacks for other members.  Please be very mindful of this and refrain from graphic descriptions of your trauma/abuse, just include enough information to give members the idea.  If you are unsure of whether or not a post is overly graphic, include the words "Trigger Warning" and give the reason for the warning (e.g., sexual abuse, domestic violence), in the subject line of your post. Posts which go beyond what is necessary to describe your situation will be edited or removed.

Privacy

Protecting the privacy of members at OOTS is paramount to members' sense of safety and community and is taken very seriously. Absolute privacy/confidentiality  cannot be guaranteed, but we will do as much as possible to protect members.  This includes encouraging you to protect your own privacy and that of other members.

Protecting the privacy of others - Members are expected to respect the privacy of others and not to solicit personal information via posts on the board or PMs. 

Protecting your privacy - It is strongly recommended that you  do not use your real name and carefully consider posting any information, a user name, email address, avatar or photo which would allow others to recognize you and/or your family/friends.  Anyone may join this site including those who have perpetrated or been involved in your abuse. 

Off-Board Information/Relationships

Protecting the confidentiality and privacy of members at OOTS is paramount to our members' sense of safety and community.  One risk to this lies in using the Private Message (PM) feature or emailing in off-board relationships, and revealing personal information to someone who is not trustworthy. While building friendships here at OOTS is encouraged, the fact of the matter is this is the Internet and people are not always who they say they are. 

You are not obliged to answer any PM you receive or to provide any personal information to any individual, no matter how friendly or trustworthy they may appear. If you receive a first time PM which seems inappropriate, report it and the Moderators will discuss it with the sender. Members are strongly encouraged to go slowly and cautiously in any off-board PM relationship. If you start having red flags or the relationship has devolved into something negative: a) end the relationship immediately; and, b) block the person's emails/PMs.

In terms of privacy and confidentiality, please be clear that members having personal information about another member they have learned off-board shall not disclose it to anyone.  This is considered a serious breach of privacy and extends to the contents of any personal communications including email, personal messages, texts and telephone/face-to-face conversations.  Any information of this nature which is posted in the forum will be modified or removed and the member warned/banned.  Please respect the privacy of others as you wish your own privacy to be respected so that we keep OOTS a safe haven in which everyone can focus on their recovery.   

Hijacking Threads

Posts should be targeted to the subject matter introduced by the originator of the thread.  You are welcome to introduce new ideas or topics by starting a separate thread. Conversations within a thread will often evolve and develop, and this is a healthy process that can help members come to a deeper understanding of the topic at hand.   However, when someone responds to a serious thread with an unrelated post which is mainly about themselves, an unrelated topic, or with a response that essentially derails the conversation, it is considered hijacking.  Do not hijack others' threads.  If you feel another poster has hijacked your thread, use the "Report to Moderator" function located at the bottom of the post you wish to report.

Flooding the Board

"Flooding" refers to making an ongoing overabundance of posts on the board.  Many of us post quite a bit when we first arrive at OOTS, but after we settle in we move into a more reasonable level of posting.  While we encourage members to post and find their voice in recovery (given that so many of us were silenced by our abusers), at the same time we each need to be cognizant of the fact that dominating the board may discourage other members from finding/using their voice. Thus, we encourage members to keep posts to reasonable length (1-3 paragraphs), to keep their daily number of posts to a reasonable level; and, to practice self-care and step away from the computer and try out recovery strategies and successes in real life. 

Responding to Others

Choose your words wisely!  Speak to others as you would wish to be spoken to, and offer your comments/opinions in a respectful, constructive manner.  Members are encouraged to recognize and accept diversity as part of the learning and healing process, and understand they may receive feedback/opinions they do not agree with. It is fine to disagree as long as it is done in a respectful manner. Posts which are antagonistic/ defensive, become personal, and otherwise do not attempt to resolve conflict in a healthy, positive manner will be edited or removed.

Please be considerate and non-judgmental about how others live their lives.  If you post something that is harsh or judgmental it will be harder for others to post for fear of receiving similar responses. Posts that are considered judgmental, offensive or intolerant will be edited or removed by the Moderation Team, and the poster will be warned and possibly banned if the behaviour persists.

Dealing with Anger

Anger and frustration at your situation is to be expected at times, especially in the early stages of recovery.  However, anger and frustration expressed towards other members can be counter-productive.  Disagreements will happen from time to time, but you must remain respectful and refrain from personal attacks.  Posts which inappropriately express anger will be edited or removed and the poster will be warned and possibly banned if the behaviour persists.

Giving Advice

While we encourage members to support and encourage others in theirs recovery, it is important to remember that we are each here to work on our own recovery first and foremost.  Many of us with CPTSD have been trained to be caretakers and recovery for us involves resisting the temptation to do so here at OOTS.   

Feel free to share how you cope or have coped with various situations and to make suggestions (as long as they are phrased as such) - that's the purpose of this forum, but please don't make blanket statements like "You *should* do this and that" based on what you think and/or have read in the resources about CPTSD.  Another person's situation may be very different from yours.  Often, people need to come to their own conclusions in their own time frame. We are all coming from different stages, situations, and backgrounds.

If a pattern of giving too much advice to others and not focusing on one's own recovery is noted, the member will be warned and if the behaviour persists, possibly banned.

Provocation/Flaming/Inflaming

Making provocative statements in any thread, and/or flaming members or inflaming an already volatile thread is not allowed and such posts will be edited or removed, and the poster warned and possibly banned if the behaviour persists. 

If You are in Crisis

We are not mental health professionals here at OOTS and, therefore, are not equipped to counsel anyone in the throes of a suicidal or threatening depression. If you are in crisis or a domestic violence situation, please do not wait. Reach out for help - it's out there for you! Please see "Emergency" at the top of the page for help lines.

Diversity

We are a diverse community, comprising many races, religions, value systems, and beliefs.  Sometimes people of certain religion or political persuasion assume that everyone shares their values & beliefs. While you may feel free to speak about what's important to you and how your values and beliefs affect your situation, you may not impose your values on anyone. (E.g., "Remember, God loves you and is watching over you!") Posts of this nature will be edited or removed. Similarly degrading or offensive comments about a member's beliefs or groups of people are subject to editing or removal.  Respect and consideration of others are emphasized here at OOTS.

Solicitation and Promotion of Products and/or Services

Solicitation of business, personal contact and direct marketing of products, services, websites, blogs & books or events for organizations, charities, individuals and groups is not permitted, subject to immediate removal and will result in a loss of the member's posting privileges.

Note: These guidelines have been adapted from those of our sister site, Out of the Fog.[/list]

[honour that feeling]

I have received a number of complaints about off-board relationships recently and want to take this opportunity to remind you of our guidelines which suggest you use caution when PMing with other members off-board.  There is good reason for this.  This is the Internet and members may not be who they say they are, it's that simple unfortunately. There are trolls and other such people on the Internet who use others to fill their own needs, manipulate them for their own ends, have a little fun at someone else's expense.  Sad,  but true so we must each practice self-care.

Please be extremely careful with what and how much information you share with other members off-board and with how involved you are with them. Go slowly until you're sure they are interested in a true friendship and not something else entirely.  If you begin to have red flags about someone you are PMing with, honour that feeling and end the relationship. 

So folks, the take away from these unfortunate incidents is to please practice self-care and keep your personal safety and well-being uppermost in your mind. 

Hi All - Just wanted to let everyone know I will be really busy with work again for a few months and will not be on the forum much except to do the course C has set up and to handle any admin matters.

You can PM me anytime if you need a hand with something as I will check in daily for PMs and to see if anyone has reported a post.

Cheers,

Kizzie

 

For those of you who are new to the site, please note that C has kindly put together a forum for a group to work together through a workbook for survivors of emotional, physical and/or sexual abuse beginning in March.  (Again, many tks for this C  ) The new forum may be found here - http://outofthefog.net/C-PTSD/forum/index.php?board=75.0

It is a structured way of approaching recovery in which the group will work together through 7 steps in each of three stages from March until May or June.  The workbook and more information may be found here -http://outofthefog.net/C-PTSD/forum/index.php?topic=937.0.   You are still welcome to post in any of the other forums of course, this is just an additional tool for recovery we are piloting.

Please note that the deadline is Feb 26th so if you'd like to join in please sign up soon  . 

[International]

A common problem for many of us seems to be locating a therapist who is trained in and experienced with treating Complex PTSD specifically. The diagnosis is relatively new; it was only recently accepted by the World Health Organization for the new edition of it's diagnostic manual, the  ICD-11 which will be published in 2022.  The diagnosis is not yet in the other diagnostic manual widely used, the American Psychiatric Association's DSM. 

The searchable databases below are free of charge and can help you narrow down available  therapists. You will note that few if any identify Complex PTSD in the conditions they treat, but will list "PTSD/trauma" and/or causes of relational trauma such as ongoing childhood abuse or domestic violence. What is important is to locate a professional who treats Complex PTSD versus PTSD.  PTSD has three symptoms whereas Complex PTSD has six so there are important differences in treatment.

There is an OOTS form "Locating a Trauma Therapist" that you may find useful in your search.  This resource from the Sidran Institute may also be helpful (scroll down to "Alphabet Soup") - "How to Choose a Therapist"

International

• Good Therapy - http://www.goodtherapy.org/find-therapist.html
• The International Society for the Study of Trauma and Dissociation (ISSTD) - https://isstd.connectedcommunity.org/network/network-find-a-professional
• International Therapist Database - https://internationaltherapistdirectory.com/

United States/Canada

• Psychology Today - http://therapists.psychologytoday.com/rms/prof_search.php
• Theravive - http://www.theravive.com/ (US only)
• Mental Health Match - https://mentalhealthmatch.com/ (US only)
• American Psychological Association - http://locator.apa.org/ (US only)
• eCounseling.com - https://www.e-counseling.com/find-a-therapist/ (US only)

United Kingdom

• Directory of UK therapists who treat Complex Trauma See also The Complex Trauma Institute
• UK Council for Psychotherapy - https://www.psychotherapy.org.uk/find-a-therapist/

Note: If there is a database for the country you live in that's not listed here, please feel free to post it and I'll add it to the main list or PM me with the info.

https://brainspotting.pro/ 

That sounds really interesting.  I have read the book by one of the two people quoted (Norman Dodge "The Brain that Changes Itself") which is a well known work about the brain's plasticity.

[Adult Children of Alcoholics World Service Organization]

I used to go to an Adult Children of Alcoholics group when I was in my 20's and although they didn't talk about trauma specifically then it seems there is more recognition that the characteristics of ACoA's align more with trauma and C/PTSD than was thought previously.  This week I came across the book  The ACOA Trauma Syndrome: The Impact of Childhood Pain on Adult Relationships by Tian Dayton and it was good to see that she does view ACoA characteristics as a trauma syndrome. Well it was for me as the ACOA group didn't quite help me to reach the pain I felt or the symptoms I was having.

If you don't want to read the full book, there's a short article here by Dayton:

Adult Children of Alcoholics ACoAs: Qualities and Traits - http://www.huffingtonpost.com/dr-tian-dayton/adult-children-of-alcohol_b_300572.html

If you compare Dayton's characteristics and traits to Woititz's work from the 90's, you can see the evolution of ACoA characteristics into more trauma related terminology.   13 Characteristics of Adult Children of Alcoholics - http://www.drjan.com/13char.html.  (Woititz was a pioneer of the ACoA movement.) Personally I think it's an important step as I got only so far at ACoA and couldn't get any further until years later when I learned I have CPTSD - that's when everything fell into place for me (that and realizing that in addition to an alcoholic parent my other parent has a personality disorder).   

Anyway, for any ACoA's here at OOTS who might want to attend an ACoA meeting, here's a site which lists face-to-face groups around the world:

Adult Children of Alcoholics World Service Organization - http://www.adultchildren.org/ . ACoA is a recovery program for adults whose lives were affected as a result of being raised in an alcoholic or other dysfunctional family. It is based on the success of Alcoholics Anonymous and employs its version of the Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions. This site has a current list of weekly ACA meetings in countries around the world, and ACA literature in six different languages. 

Please see the new link "Books" at the top of the page as there is a category for the Inner Child.  If you have any good additions just PM me or post here.