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Welcome and thank you Blueberry!   

Hi Smellycat

(I will be singing that song all day now lol)

Unfortunately we have a glitch in our password reset that we need an IT person to fix for us and that won't happen for a bit unfortunately.

What I can do is create a new password for your Habitude account then you can reset it once you're in. Or you can change your user name in this account to Habitude2, whichever works best for you. If it's the former, let me know by PM, and if it's the latter just go ahead and change your user name for this account.  The latter probably would work best as then you won't have three new posts under the name Smellycat. 

Kizzie

I changed the name of the sub-forum again to mirror the one in the adult forum "Economic, Social Political Trauma" and added a better description:

Any situation in which trauma as a child was ongoing with no real/perceived avenue of escape (e.g., violence; homelessness; poverty; exploitation; human trafficking; war/civil unrest; displacement; refugeeism; oppression; racism, etc. 

Hopefully this will better capture more of the causes of CPTSD.

It's sad whenever a member leaves but in the four years I've been here a few have come back to try again and that's what I keep in mind in situations like this.  Realizing you may have  some more work to do in recovery is not a bad thing IMO. 

Not to worry, I did not read your post as criticism at all.       I just wanted to let you and others know I am beginning to work on this section more and that I welcome suggestions.   

I will be away from the forum for about two weeks starting Dec 4th as I have surgery coming up so this forum may go dormant on my side of things for a bit.  However, I will get back to it once I'm up and around again. 

Yes, self-care must always come first so plse don't feel you SHOULD help out - nasty word that!     

My plan was/is to expand/refine the Dev of CPTSD in Adulthood forum and sub-forums,  but I haven't done much yet as  I am not as versed in adulthood CPTSD and wanted to see what would come up.  I hoped to shape the forum according to what members were posting about.   However, it has been a little slow so I have been doing some research into causes. You'll see I have added in some categories and related articles and books in that respect.   Any other suggestions from those of you who dev CPTSD in adulthood about the forum/sub-forums would be very welcome though so plse post or PM.   

Skier, there are so many postings and only a certain amount of time  to read on a daily basis.  You can write as much as you'd like in your journal so I've moved your posts accordingly. Here it's accepted that members may write lengthier posts to work through something, get something off their chests, etc., and fellow members can choose to read or skip.  In other forums/sub-forums, however, if  you keep your posts shorter you'll find more members are likely to read them as TR suggests.

Also, while I am glad you have made  progress in your own recovery most people need to find their own path.  What works for you may not for them so best to share what helped you and leave readers to decide for themselves.     

One last suggestion is that members are more likely to read your posts if you are a member rather than a guest.

The madness is not within after all

  Truer words San .....  Perhaps together we here at OOTS will be enough of a voice at some point to demand change 

Thought provoking article about sketchy/skimpy research and the way it affects health insurance coverage for therapy  in the US:


Many health insurance companies discriminate against psychotherapy. Congress has passed laws mandating mental health "parity" (equal coverage for medical and mental health conditions) but health insurers circumvent them. This has led to class action lawsuits against health insurance companies, but discrimination continues.

One way that health insurers circumvent parity laws is by shunting patients to the briefest and cheapest therapies. Another way is by making therapy so impersonal and dehumanizing that patients drop out. Health insurers do not publicly say the treatment decisions are driven by economic self-interest. They say the treatments are scientifically proven.

It's bad enough that most Americans don't have adequate mental health coverage, without also being gaslighted and told that inadequate therapy is the best therapy.


Read the full article :

Shedler, J. (2017). Selling bad therapy to trauma victims: Patients and therapists should ignore new guidelines for treating trauma. - https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/psychologically-minded/201711/selling-bad-therapy-trauma-victims

I do see where psycho may be problematic for us and the public, but I also think it reflects the fact that all abuse/neglect is psychologically traumatizing.  And it is commonly used by mental health professionals (as per my recent tweet about a new program discussed at the Psychotraumatology Network site here - http://www.psychotraumanetwork.com/about/).  Finally it distinguishes psychological from physiological  trauma (which often comes up if you just search the word trauma. 

In the end I am good with "psychological trauma" as it is less negative in connotation.

Andyman - I added a TW to your post just so no member is caught off guard - I'm not even sure what to say about a parent who makes  child participate in their abuse like that.  I m so sorry for what both you and you Elphanigh went through.  If it is so difficult to read then I can only imagine what it was like to endure it. I guess I do know having taken so so many punches to the soul.  There is so much to be sad and angry about.  I know letting myself finally remember and feel, as hard as it has been, has made such a difference for me having support here. And so I just wanted to send you both a huge, warm, nurturing    for the children in you who survived the unspeakable.   I hope it helps, even just a little.

HI BB - At least a week or two to give everyone a change to read, mull and vote if they want.  I'll make a announcement a few days be before I close them.

There is quite a bit of initial discussion about changing any/all of the words in CPTSD here - http://outofthefog.net/C-PTSD/forum/index.php?topic=6758.0 that you may want to have a read through it before voting.

There is quite a bit of initial discussion about changing any/all of the words in CPTSD here - http://outofthefog.net/C-PTSD/forum/index.php?topic=6758.0 that you may want to have a read through it before voting.