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Hi Sierra and a warm welcome to you     Fellow dog lover here!  Is that a pic of yours?

Lurking is perfectly okay here although we're glad you decided to post. 

You don't need a diagnosis to be sure. If what members write about resonates then you are in the right place. 

Hi and a warm welcome to OOTS Hazy     Fellow child of a PD FOO here!  I am so so grateful to OOTF for raising awareness about the lasting effects of being raised by someone with a PD.  I'm not quite sure where I would be if I hadn't stumbled across them three years ago.  In any event, glad you found your way here and I hope you find the info and support you need 

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Hi Phoe - well that's great news that you have a psychiatrist, therapist and support group to help you!

Please note that we did edit your post so that it is in line with our guidelines.  As Three Roses mentioned we do that to keep OOTS as safe as possible for everyone.   We are not trained professionals so when a member is in crisis and thinking of harming themselves we immediately tell them to reach out in real life to their Emergency Room or a mental health professional.  It seems you have done that so I hope you find the support and treatment you need in that respect 

What we do encourage members to talk about (albeit not in graphic detail as the guidelines state) is how they developed CPTSD and what they are trying to do to recover. From the sounds of it your M's treatment would make CPTSD a real possibility but your psychiatrist has not diagnosed you as having CPTSD yet? 

I've been thinking for some time now that perhaps we could have an area for members' art here at OOTS to convey what CPTSD feels like.  Not a contest or anything, just us using drawing, painting, sketching or maybe photography to express how we feel.  I don't know if that would be of interest Sesame or perhaps it would be too much pressure right now?  You mentioned drawing at work for other people and I thought maybe drawing to express yourself to us might help you to do something you used to love but that now might also help in recovery.  Just a thought.

Beautiful Yellow 

 

[Off-Board Information/Relationships]

From time to time we pull out a member guideline and post it here as a reminder of what is and isn't allowed at OOTS and/or how to stay safe.  This one falls into the latter category and isn't meant to scare anyone, rather it is just to serve as a small reminder that not everyone is who they purport to be so do be careful if you are PMing/emailing with members off board.

Off-Board Information/Relationships

Protecting the confidentiality and privacy of members at OOTS is paramount to our members' sense of safety and community.  One risk to this lies in using the Private Message (PM) feature or emailing in off-board relationships, and revealing personal information to someone who is not trustworthy. While building friendships here at OOTS is encouraged, the fact of the matter is this is the Internet and people are not always who they say they are.

You are not obliged to answer any PM you receive or to provide any personal information to any individual, no matter how friendly or trustworthy they may appear. If you receive a first time PM which seems inappropriate, report it and the Moderators will discuss it with the sender. Members are strongly encouraged to go slowly and cautiously in any off-board PM relationship. If you start having red flags or the relationship has devolved into something negative, please be aware that Moderators cannot become involved in what inevitably turns into a "he said, she said" situation.  What we recommend if you do experience this, is to: a) end the relationship immediately; and, b) block the person's emails/PMs.

In terms of privacy and confidentiality, please be clear that members having personal information about another member they have learned off-board shall not disclose it to anyone other than in discussions with the Site Manager/ Moderators regarding problematic behaviour.  This is considered a serious breach of privacy and extends to the contents of any personal communications including email, personal messages, texts and telephone/face-to-face conversations.  Any information of this nature which is posted in the forum will be modified or removed by the moderator and the member warned. If it comes to light that this information was revealed to members other than the Site Manager/Moderators, the member will be warned and if there is a pattern of disclosing other members' private information, the member will be banned.     

Please respect the privacy of others as you wish your own privacy to be respected so that we keep OOTS a safe haven in which everyone can focus on their recovery.   

Hello and welcome to OOTS from another member of the Moderation team Phoe  .   I also wanted to welcome you as you are one of our younger members and we're always hoping to attract people early on if we can.

As Dutch has said, please be sure and have a read through our Guidelines. It would also be good to hear more about how you developed CPTSD so we know which of our experiences will resonate for you.

Hope you find some good information and support here 

Right here too Mourningdove and sending you (and everyone) much support     

Not whining Sanmagic, never, not ever when it's about what happened to us and what we lived through then and still live with now all these years later. 

I'm with Pete Walker when he suggests we need to do a lot of angering and grieving because that's what defuels the critical shaming parts and reignites our healthier parts.  That said, if you feel the need to take a break (because it really is a lot to digest and process isn't it?), trust yourself and we'll see you whenever you get back.   

HI and a warm welcome to OOTS Tyy     You have the dubious honour of being our 2000th member so there are LOTS of us who feel you unfortunately.  I hope you settle in and find some good support and info to help you on the road to recovery.    

Hi and a warm welcome to you Elizabeth - definitely lots of us with the disorder unfortunately so no need to feel different or alone any more    Hope you find some good info and support here!

And another!     Hope you're doing OK