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I'm sorry to hear this. She doesn't sound like she was acting very professionally. Anyone else you can see for meds?

Yes, but i have to wait about a month or so :/

I'm so mad, I needed new medication so I went in for my appointment as usual. She began asking me about my back story and I said I was and still am to a degree abused. She asked what kind and I said mostly psychological (as in verbal/emotional etc) Then she snickered and said "So what, you think you were abused just because you were yelled at?" I became defensive so I told her I was also physically abused and it was only then that she took me seriously. The reason I don't usually talk about that is because the physical abuse only happened when things got really bad; but the emotional/verbal and whatnot was pretty much daily. It just makes me so mad that a mental health professional could say something like that! I felt so invalidated and that was triggering because my feelings were constantly being invalidated and deemed unimportant growing up.  ugh...

These past few weeks I've had bad dreams every night, some worse than others. Last week I had a dream where my boyfriend was telling me that I shouldn't complain about my childhood because his was worst than mine. Now this is something he wouldn't ever even think of saying to me! He even apologized when I told him about it! That is how caring he is towards me that he feels guilty that the dream version of him said something mean. With this being said, I think the dream has two meanings that I am aware of. He too was abused in his childhood, but he was physically abused mostly while I was mostly emotionally abused. I know you can't compare two situations, and consciously I make an effort not to. But whenever I complained about things that bothered me as a child, I was invalidated. I was told that I had a good life and that other children had it worst and was shut down, so I feel as though I do that to myself now. Also, I have this fear that someday he won't be nice to me anymore and he'll abuse me too and I'll be trapped in a lifetime of abuse. Does anyone have any advice on how I can overcome these feelings?