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Reading this post with interest. I've just tried yoga at home, so my opinion may not count. Somehow every time I try it, I fall into dissociation......Was reading an article that said yoga would help you stay out of dissociation.... I'm a bit confused.... Anyone here with another experience?

Hi! I'm trying to explain the window of tolerance for my friend. But I find hyperaroused and hypoaroused a bit wired to use... Is there a more common language that explain these things in a better way?

Sorry, I have no answer. But I'm listening to your pain. 

Oh, I feel your pain......! Been there. Wish I could help.

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The first month is free. Enough time to learn several new skills. Then you might be a freelancer at Fiverr or something.

That sounded too simplified........I know.......no green grass or anything, but it might be a start to get you going and get some self-confidence
Good luck

Thanks! This is one of those incredibly useful posts! Nothing really new, but when you really need it, you can't remember it.

Wish you all the best! And hope this will calm the storm a bit!

I'm crying a tear for you (which is pretty unusual for me to do).  I've been NC with my mum almost a year and have felt your pain about dealing with FOO, denial, and betrayal. What I have found most helpful, is to have a few trusted people remind me of why I went NC. Along with holding my hand while navigating through the FOO landscape..... Remember, your aunt might need you as much as you need her!

I know I can appear extremly normal and functional in social settings most of the time. But I mostly can control when I go out and see people, I control how many times I'm social in a week and for how long I am social. And if I can rest for the next few days.
I struggle with words, I forget words in my mother-tongue and has to use english.

Oh, so recognizable Sceal! I thought it was just me doing these things. Do you often use English in social settings? Do you think in English as well?

Read an article recently that hit me hard in the gut. Transelated to english, the title said:

"I have PTSD, and most of my symptoms are hidden"

Oh, so true!
And we work really hard to hide what's going on inside.....
Panic when touched, is one of the things I try to hide......because it's so shameful....
What's yours?

Music is such a great tool in many situations! And it really helps to be mindful about what kind of music you need right now. I have several list and favorite albums for different situations. Right now I'm listening to the soundtracks from the first "Pirates of the Caribbean" film. Lots of power and it makes me smile

Stabilization and safety first! That's the most important step in therapy. A good enough therapist will never push your limits more than you can handle!

Glad you had the courage to change t! 

Does anyone know why such exhaustion exist after a big emotional drain?

If you've been carrying a big elephant for a long time, it certainly will drain you out! And letting it out for the first time might show your body that it has good reasons to be exhausted.

My T often points out that it takes a lot of effort to hold our emotions in and carry so much--much more effort than we are aware of.  So, once we sort of let it go, we finally feel the exhaustion.  She'll often refer to it as emotional energy or trying to contain holding in emotional energy. 

Wise therapist!

Are you ok?  How are you feeling right now?
Just the simple questions I feel if she actually asked me I'd be able to open up more then trying to battle on with the attitude that I'm ok when I'm really not feeling it and sometimes feel too scared to say that I'm actually feeling crap and no I'm not ok right now!

Oh yeah! been there many times! Would you be able to answer that you're not okay?

Wow! lot of great questions!

I've just started out with a new therapist and she ask: What do you wanna work with today? How do you wanna use this session? These are some of the questions I've missed in former therapies.

But many times I wish the t ask direct questions instead of suggestions like "I don't know what's going on in your head, if it's in the past or if it's just empty".  Would be much easier with a direct question: "Are you in the past or are your head just empty?

Any more questions?

There are lots of things that are just in our own heads, that would never leave this area unless someone ask directly.......

So, what's the big questions that you might answer if your therapist asked directly?