I wanted to know why I was the scapegoat. Only recently I discovered a brother was a scapegoat too. We were the middle children and the most creative, both musically inclined, and emotionally sensitive.
Ultimately the reason I was scapegoated: My Nmother had an affair and I am the child from that affair. I hadn't fully accepted that until my Nmother died in 2010 though I first mentioned it in 2005 to my therapist. After she died repressed memories flooded through for the next several years. It was the second time in my life that I had flooding of memories. One memory came to me recently about the first time my Nmother harped on me because I wasn't like my brothers. I was six years old. What she didn't like about me wasn't something I could change; I had a different father. Her attack on me was so vicious that my stepdad had to step in to stop her.
After the flooding of memories, my life finally made sense even down to the trigger which caused me to enter therapy for the third time in my life back in 1988.
Ultimately the reason I was scapegoated: My Nmother had an affair and I am the child from that affair. I hadn't fully accepted that until my Nmother died in 2010 though I first mentioned it in 2005 to my therapist. After she died repressed memories flooded through for the next several years. It was the second time in my life that I had flooding of memories. One memory came to me recently about the first time my Nmother harped on me because I wasn't like my brothers. I was six years old. What she didn't like about me wasn't something I could change; I had a different father. Her attack on me was so vicious that my stepdad had to step in to stop her.
After the flooding of memories, my life finally made sense even down to the trigger which caused me to enter therapy for the third time in my life back in 1988.