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I'm much messier and forgetful when I don't feel in control of my emotions/health.

How are you finding it today Kat?

I like making plans for my day. I allow myself spontaneity if I need it, but sometimes having that structure helps.

Do any of you have thoughts on this? Does it make sense that nagging and blame about not going out might feel like a physical threat, trigger ef and would reinforce avoidance?

If you had/have a nm, did you find a nurturing, warm figure elsewhere?

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I'm so sorry I didn't understand this from your first post. It sounds like you have a lot to cope with as a result of these possible symptoms.

Is there anyone you can talk to with a good understanding and trustworthy perspective of the situation?

Dee, well done.

The whole thing sounds like a difficult step, but you have accomplished it while demonstrating such tenderness towards your children.

Be kind to yourself on this exhausting journey.

Hi Berdy,

welcome. It's great that you are searching for answers for your loved one. None of us are qualified to advise you, of course, but many of the symptoms you have listed are criteria for a PTSD diagnosis and may indicate Complex PTSD. C-PTSD (which isn't listed in the DSM yet) and BPD share many of the same symptoms. Any reason why she isn't seeking a diagnosis?

Perhaps you could encouraged your loved one to try this forum, or take a look at the main site? If very distressed at the moment - it might not be the right time.

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Would it be useful to have a board where we can promote and discuss educating ourselves, professionals, friends and family?

I was thinking many with CPTSD go misdiagnosed for years and a lot of us have lived feeling misunderstood for a long time. This isn't a widely acknowledged diagnosis and we are still waiting for it to be accepted (at this point) in the DSM.

Maybe having a "library" would help. This could include links to or info from elsewhere, sharing our experiences about speaking with professionals/friends and family, and asking advice on how to present symptoms if users haven't had a diagnosis or medical indication yet.

Thank you both for a warm welcome!

Hi! Well done for making your first post.

It sounds like there's a lot going on at the moment. I just wanted to encourage you to keep talking if it helps. Are you able to share what you feel from these emotional flashbacks with your husband?

Hi. I've just found this forum and most likely if I don't say hello now - I never will.

I was sexually assaulted as a young person and subsequently emotionally abused. I hope I can offer support to you at some stage - so feel free to reply or message me (however it works here) and let me know if you want a chat. I'd appreciate a friend!