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Show posts MenuQuote from: Andyman73 on September 21, 2017, 03:48:48 PMHello Andrew, did we meet? Andy and I have shared a little on another thread a few days ago, but if you're not the "same" Andrew, happy to meet you!
Lim,
Thank you for sharing that. I've heard of animal inners(?) but you are the first I've had contact with. I have a lot of dissociative amnesia in both childhood and adulthood.
Andrew
Quote from: Blueberry on September 21, 2017, 09:27:27 PMThat's great! So happy for you and Bear. May I ask if you have tricks to help the little ones inside communicate better, even if not vocally? Right now their communication is more than a little chaotic and becomes quickly painful when they scream.
I have a therapy bear who represented a small, unhappy Inner Child. For a long time Bear couldn't communicate at all with language. Bear understood quite a lot but couldn't express. Then Bear started to nod or shake his head. Then eventually to speak. Bear is bilingual now, using both my native language and the language of the country I now live in. So, just saying, these things can and do change.
Quote from: Blueberry on September 21, 2017, 09:27:27 PMIt's complicated. I've learned yesterday that I have a lot more amnesia than I thought I had, so my best guess is that some parts of myself are more "conscious" of them than others. When those parts "disappear" to the back of my head, so do the memories and everything related to the existence of my insiders.
Sounds like Inner Helpers, in fact you can have a whole Inner Team on board.for you for coming up with these 'others'. I say
because I had help and encouragement coming up with mine e.g. through Ego State therapy and all the Inner Child workshops I did. It seems yours have come up on their own, without outside help except from you?
Quote from: justdontknow on September 17, 2017, 07:30:55 PMWhat justdontknow says. I'm really sorry you went through that. Hopefully you'll be able to find yourself a safe place soon.
Your dad's behaviour sounds so frightening. I'm not surprised you dissociated.
Quote from: CepheidVox on September 17, 2017, 04:32:22 PMCould have written the exact same thing, with the exception that most of my amnesia is centred in childhood.
I also experience these things. It's like each collection of similar memories is a separate person inside my brain. I can't remember my life because the memories are locked away in those other selves. I definitely have EF where those people take over and I go away but I also hear their thoughts in my mind almost all the time. It's very noisy in my head sometimes.
Quote from: Blueberry on September 14, 2017, 09:47:28 PMI know that in the country I'm in BPD is often diagnosed after about 5 minutes to mean 'patient = difficult'.Same for where I live. There's also a tradition of being very self-deprecating and sarcastic in my culture, which doesn't help as a lot of people (including professionals supposed to help you) feel entitled to joke about lack of self-worth as if being laughingstock material is something normal in everyday life, and having a sense of humour means being able to "take jokes", aka laugh when people are making fun of them no matter how mean the "joke" is. (Not sure if that sentence was as clear on paper as it is in my head. If it's not, I'm very sorry, my brain currently seems to be wired in my mother tongue instead of English.) Since I've been really sensitive to any jokes made at my expense since I was very young, I've often been labelled as prickly and difficult, something that no doubt came up when the doctors were interviewing my mother after I was admitted to the ward. (That, and the fact that my mum -- the main person they interviewed to corroborate what I was saying -- seems chronically unable to make a difference between "acting rashly/on impulse" and "verbally lashing out when triggered". Seeing as the first one is a criteria of BPD and the second one is not...)
Quote from: Blueberry on September 14, 2017, 09:47:28 PMApparently I used to start screaming with no apparent provocation, at least according to FOO. If it's true then undoubtedly the amnesia is there (and was there when I was much younger) to protect me. Maybe for you too?I relate a lot to this, yes. Apparently my "screaming" episodes used to be triggered by having to go outside the house, something that is still extremely difficult for me today. I have no memory of this, except for one really strange upside-down and red/yellow-tinted image of rice crispies flying in the air (my mum said I grabbed a box and flung it in the air the very last time I had an episode, so at least I know it happened).
Quote from: AphoticAtramentous on September 15, 2017, 06:26:33 AMI feel rather privileged - like I've struck gold when I tell people my second (and current) therapist has been the most helpful and kind therapist I know of.Actually the first T I saw as an adult (discounting all those I've seen as a child and teen) was great. A fantastic no-nonsense woman who had some experience dealing with trauma victims, just the right amount of both warmth and clinical distance, and was patient enough to avoid rushing me, but still called me out a few times when she noticed my mind was going in circles. She wasn't perfect, but she probably was the most helpful T I saw since I was diagnosed. Unfortunately she had to take a sabbatical year -- the few Ts that followed weren't so great, felt completely helpless before my problems, kept dropping me on other Ts, and in the end pushed me to agree to a transfer (from the public system to a BPD-specialised centre). By the time my first T came back, I was two weeks away from being officially transferred and couldn't stop the process anymore.