Not sure what I am trying to say but feel like posting.
I am not recovering, I am trying to figure out what has happened in my life to bring me to my current situation.
This site helps me by showing me the experiences of others, and the outcomes these experiences have produced in them.
I don't even seek recovery really, I will be satisfied with a good understanding, this is a precursor to acceptance of what is and of what has gone before.
I am thinking that my life has been particularly tragic and difficult, although I can see that perhaps life is generally difficult and tragic so maybe my experience is just life. Maybe the 'fault' is that I have been unable to step up and deal with tragedy in a way that also protected me from mental illness.
But I have repeatedly dealt with tragedy and evil, maybe that is more important than the personal negative consequences of dealing with the harsh things in life.
My dealings with tragedy and evil were not always pretty, but they were honest and done with as much dignity as I could manage, an honest attempt to counter the worst parts of life.
As a child I found life quite challenging, as an adult things got uglier.
So here I am in middle age carrying a lot of traumatic memories, with a wide range of symptoms.
But I did the things that needed to be done, along the way I protected others from the worst consequences of their actions and the actions of others.
Identifying the symptoms, understanding the causes of them and what behaviours they have produced is important to me. Its like solving a puzzle or a math problem, once you can work through it and solve it you can see all the steps and where they fit together.
Being here helps me to see the patterns in my life and where and how my weird collection of symptoms originated.
For those seeking recovery I hope you find it. But consider if acceptance is actually good enough, and maybe something everyone can aim at.
I think for me that is all I am looking for, to me recovery now would mean that I didn't put enough of myself in harms way back then, that I could have done more.
Survivors guilt.
But I know that is not the case, I put all I had on the line, and I can't expect to get it all back again.
I hope this doesn't come across as arrogant, I judge myself more harshly than I judge others. I am not filled with pride or self importance, I am just trying to understand.
And maybe be understood.
I am not recovering, I am trying to figure out what has happened in my life to bring me to my current situation.
This site helps me by showing me the experiences of others, and the outcomes these experiences have produced in them.
I don't even seek recovery really, I will be satisfied with a good understanding, this is a precursor to acceptance of what is and of what has gone before.
I am thinking that my life has been particularly tragic and difficult, although I can see that perhaps life is generally difficult and tragic so maybe my experience is just life. Maybe the 'fault' is that I have been unable to step up and deal with tragedy in a way that also protected me from mental illness.
But I have repeatedly dealt with tragedy and evil, maybe that is more important than the personal negative consequences of dealing with the harsh things in life.
My dealings with tragedy and evil were not always pretty, but they were honest and done with as much dignity as I could manage, an honest attempt to counter the worst parts of life.
As a child I found life quite challenging, as an adult things got uglier.
So here I am in middle age carrying a lot of traumatic memories, with a wide range of symptoms.
But I did the things that needed to be done, along the way I protected others from the worst consequences of their actions and the actions of others.
Identifying the symptoms, understanding the causes of them and what behaviours they have produced is important to me. Its like solving a puzzle or a math problem, once you can work through it and solve it you can see all the steps and where they fit together.
Being here helps me to see the patterns in my life and where and how my weird collection of symptoms originated.
For those seeking recovery I hope you find it. But consider if acceptance is actually good enough, and maybe something everyone can aim at.
I think for me that is all I am looking for, to me recovery now would mean that I didn't put enough of myself in harms way back then, that I could have done more.
Survivors guilt.
But I know that is not the case, I put all I had on the line, and I can't expect to get it all back again.
I hope this doesn't come across as arrogant, I judge myself more harshly than I judge others. I am not filled with pride or self importance, I am just trying to understand.
And maybe be understood.