They are rare. I'd suggest you not to depend on your partner to experience what healthy love or affection is.
Besides people are NOT there to understand our trauma and help us cope. That's even more true of a close relationship like marriage/partnership.
The other person too would have his/her needs, emotions and life before you as he/she would be having with you.
I too agree with el. You can expect them in the most unlikely places. I was working sometime ago. It was a very high activity environment/workplace. You probably won't expect anyone to be kind to a coworker especially if they're working in a high stress environment and have a very high workload, right? Yet the people there were some of the kindest people I have ever come across in my life. The women there, around my M's age, were so kind to me I almost had to hold my tears back. I have never experienced such kindness and empathy earlier in my life. So yes, just be open to life happening.
Besides people are NOT there to understand our trauma and help us cope. That's even more true of a close relationship like marriage/partnership.
The other person too would have his/her needs, emotions and life before you as he/she would be having with you.
I too agree with el. You can expect them in the most unlikely places. I was working sometime ago. It was a very high activity environment/workplace. You probably won't expect anyone to be kind to a coworker especially if they're working in a high stress environment and have a very high workload, right? Yet the people there were some of the kindest people I have ever come across in my life. The women there, around my M's age, were so kind to me I almost had to hold my tears back. I have never experienced such kindness and empathy earlier in my life. So yes, just be open to life happening.