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Depression / Understanding depression and anxiety from Pete Walker
« on: May 19, 2020, 07:57:32 PM »
Wasn't sure if this is better placed in books section but directly relates feelings of anxiety and depression.

Have reduced my reading around CPTSD for the moment while reflecting on Pete Walker's understanding of depression and anxiety. I'm tempted to go with a simplistic understanding and my reading of Pete's work seems to offer this, if I've understood correctly. I'm wondering if anyone familiar with Pete's work or similar has reached the same conclusions. My understanding may be too narrow though so would welcome anyone's thoughts on this, as he's a bright light in recovery writing, both as a clinician and someone with direct experience of recovering with CPTSD.

When our developmental relational needs aren't met by caregivers, we can experience abandonment depression. We become overwhelmed by having no one and no place to turn for safety and these feelings will come up for processing again and again. 

If we can allow ourselves to feel this depression rooted in the original abandonment, then it can help transform depression. It will require us to sit with those feelings and acknowledge both the original fears (reassuring ourselves we are now safe), and express grief at the loss of not experiencing loving security at a stage when we needed it. It will often also require us to become angry at the injustice of the situation and with the caregiver who couldn't/ didn't provide. The anger is one way we re-establish boundaries and a sense of ongoing safety and the tears help with processing and release.

Just wanted to check with Pete saying that anxiety is the next stage up, when experiencing depression is something we would rather avoid and so feelings of anxiety develop as a defence? As though it's easier to experience anxiety than go back to re-experiencing the original feelings of abandonment depression, which can feel the most difficult, both originally and now.

I was always struck by Pete describing how even now, he gives himself space to cry at those moments of reconnecting with the original abandonment rather than using strategies to avoid it - like being busy, spacing out etc. Of course the pacing of all of this is different for everyone and everyone's recovery journey is an individual one. It's just got me thinking about things differently. If anyone's wondered the same, would be happy to hear from you.

Peer support, social groups, training, c-ptsd experienced counselling/therapy service, outreach workshops and campaigning :

Introductory Post / newbie starting counselling
« on: July 24, 2018, 06:46:18 PM »
hello, happy to have found my way here. Iím new to the site and the forum and new to recognising that Iím affected by cptsd.

Iím in the U.K. and have started therapy with a counsellor who understands cptsd.  Iím trying to get my head around different types of therapy available in the U.K. - are there reasons why people may opt for NHS psychology services, or psychiatry or psychotherapy or counselling? Iíve gone down the private Skype counselling route and early days but so far so good.

Itís just that I made the decision myself without GP or anyone elseís involvement and before I get in too deep, Iím starting to wonder about what the benefits are of other types of therapists.

Have people found that their recovery journey hasnít been a one stop shop in terms of therapists?

If this should go in the therapy section then please move, sorry. Iím an adult child of Narc parent.

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