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To Boatsetsailrose

I have never been to Bristol. I've heard it's lovely! I'm living in a small town at the moment.  It's quiet and peaceful. Best of all its 150 miles away from my FOO and my Ex Husband. I escaped here about 8 years ago. Been No Contact with all of them since then. Best present I could have given myself!!

Kubali

To VeryFoggy

Sounds like you got to enjoy the best of Europe! I'm glad it has remained a treasured memory. I'm with you on that completely. That was one of the good things about my FOO, they were well travelled too. Some positive experiences to offset the Abyss don't you agree

Kubali

To Boatsetsailrose and Woodsgnome

Thank you for replying. I have often wondered about this and it's comforting to know that others have experienced the same thing. Yes the author Elaine Aaron certainly had interesting and insightful things to say. I found it a revelation that there were other people who struggled with overwhelment. I thought it was just me being 'weak' . No doubt I acquired this label from my FOO!

It's a curious thing that labels can be either discriminatory or a comfort. Another illustration of the subjective truth of our existence. I believe that our perception can be changed with patience and consistency. It's raising the awareness of deeply held negative beliefs that can be so exhausting. Thought monitoring is a trait I inherited from my abusive background, but I guess it's come in useful when it's reframed as Mindfulness.

I am similar to you both, this is enlightening! Before I felt alienated from the rest of the human race. So thank you for sharing your thoughts. It is truly helpful to receive positive mirroring don't you think?
Kubali

Hello everyone

I'm just wondering is there any one else here that would class themselves as an HSP or an Empath?

I've been reading so many posts that contain highly intelligent and insightful language. Some are beautifully written and obviously come deep from within (soul)

There must be a correlation between CPTSD and the above mentioned traits. It stands to reason that we suffer so much on so many levels, because we have these gifts. Or rather curses??

Kubali

To BeHealthy and Trees

Thank you for your generous welcome. It helps to have contact with people who understand and empathise. But I guess you both already know that

I was first introduced to the Tao te Ching about 20 odd years ago. It helped somehow and probably kickstarted my Spiritual journey. A great introduction to Taoism is "The Tao of Pooh and the Te of Piglet" by Benjamin Hoff. It's well worth a read if you want to get the flavour of Taoism.

I have noticed and am convinced that a lot of people who suffer are more open and receptive to Spiritualism. There are probably quite a few Empaths and HSP's here I'm guessing. It seems that the gentle and sensitives are invariably the prime targets in many disordered families. Wondered if either of you have any thoughts on the matter? Might be worth a separate thread?
Kubali

Hello Veryfoggy

I like the name by the way. Sounds like you are a well travelled person! Whereabouts in England and Europe have you been?

Kubali

Hello everyone

Both my parents have NPD. My sister also. Her and my father are Malignant and overt. My mother is covert.

It's odd but my mother caused the most damage. Of them all it is her betrayal and deceit that truly rocked and shocked me.

I'm wondering if anyone else feels the same about their Narcissistic mother?

Kubali

Just wondering if there is anyone here from england at all?

Kubali

Hi Linda

I really liked your post. Just to let you know.

It's true. Sometimes they don't love you. Turns the whole belief system upside down doesn't it?

Kubali

Hello *

Just a thought. The impatience thing. Have you checked out the " hurry up" driver using the TA model?

My mother has NPD and the instant success thing was her way of keeping everyone in failure mode. Sometimes I think I absorbed this programming. When I'm under pressure I try to remember this may be a driver.

May be nothing. May be something

Kubali

This is a quick question to the person who posted before me. I noticed a quote from Lao Tsu. Are you familiar with the Tao te Ching? I would welcome your thoughts? I have met only one other person who knew something of Taoism. It would be lovely to find another. Especially here.

To the lady who first posted, I feel your conflict. Only you can choose for yourself, however I think you already know the answer. That is why you have arrived in this place. Your instincts are sound and they have served you well

Kubali

I'm new. To this forum. Not new to suffering. Just wanted to reach out and say hello to fellow travellers. It's a difficult path to tread. No doubt about that.

I have empathy for everyone here. I send you all my warmest wishes and thanks for being brave.

Kubali