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#3241
 :hug: Sorry you had such a stressful day.
#3242
Johnram,

Brave of you to post this. Clearly you were manipulated by your father. A child would not have any resources to counter that. I'm glad that you and your mom have been able to forgive each other. Shame and guilt---those are so difficult. I am currently reading "It Wasn't Your Fault: freeing yourself from the shame of childhood abuse with the power of self-compassion" by Beverly Engel.
#3243
Sending care, knowing that another part making herself known is a tender, vulnerable time.  :hug:
#3244
Friends / Re: Narcs on Parade
May 15, 2019, 07:50:26 PM
Quote from: Kizzie on May 15, 2019, 04:34:02 PM
Sounds like you clearly know how his behaviour is inappropriate - my only suggestion is to tell him as calmly as possible what he is doing is inappropriate and why, and that you do not want him to email you any more. I'm suggesting staying calm so as not to ignite N injury/rage if he indeed has NPD. Just "here's my boundary, don't violate it any more" - straightforward and firm.

If he continues then it's probably something beyond NPD which may mean your safety is at risk and you do need to take things a step further and involve the law as TR has suggested.


:yeahthat: Agree with what Kizzie and TR said. I don't know technology, but after telling him to stop, is there a way to block him from your email?
#3245
Friends / Re: The friends dilemma
May 15, 2019, 07:43:25 PM
I don't have any answers, but want you to know that I hear your pain and frustration.
#3246
Recovery Journals / Re: Hoping for the best
May 15, 2019, 07:40:58 PM
 :snort: :stars: Very frustrating situation with the police, although glad that part is finished. Your feelings of fear, guilt, and that you are about to be punished do not seem crazy to me. Family dynamics are so complex and your feelings make sense to me. You said that you felt like a funeral. That is huge. Giving you a hug  :hug: as you experience great pain.

#3247
That was a really big step in telling your husband. You debated telling him for a long time and it was a big risk, so understandable why you are exhausted. It was really hard and scary and you did it.  :cheer:

Quote from: Deep Blue on May 15, 2019, 01:35:00 AM
I feel so needy and pitiful that I needed her to see me so desperately

You are needy, 1) because you are human, 2) everything you are dealing with. You do have needs and that is okay. You are NOT pitiful. You are a precious person. Sounds like your therapist cares about you a great deal and is invested in helping you.
#3248
Please Introduce Yourself Here / Re: Introduction
May 15, 2019, 07:20:23 PM
Cats,
I understand the feeling of just coping. I've had times where just taking the next breath felt like a big effort. There are people who understand and care. My relationship to God is very important to me too, so you are not alone in that. Welcome to this forum.
#3249
Checking Out / Re: Off for a bit
May 15, 2019, 06:46:27 PM
You will still be thought of even though you won't be present. Looking forward to hearing how all of your "new" is going.
#3250
Checking Out / Re: off for a few days
May 15, 2019, 12:33:04 AM
Hope by the time you read this you are feeling better.  :hug:
#3251
alliematt and sanmagic:
Your care is very appreciated and I am taking it in.
#3252
Recovery Journals / Re: Wattlebirds journal
May 12, 2019, 09:50:44 PM
Sending encouragement as you take it slow and work on mindfulness.  :hug:
#3253
Woodsgnome,
Thank you for the hug and for sharing your image of the false building. I am very visual so appreciate you sharing your image.
#3254
Hope, Three Roses, MoonBeam, Kizzie,

Thank you for hearing me, supporting me, understanding, and for the compassion and the hugs. To be believed and to be treated with kindness is nurturing to my heart. Here is a hug back to all of you.  :grouphug:
#3255
Recovery Journals / Re: Hoping for the best
May 10, 2019, 09:42:10 PM
Glad you shared here. What an incredibly frustrating day!