Hi marta,
Thank you for reacting ánd the, very welcome!, hugs of support.
In a way I can welcome this pain and let it be there, without frantically wanting to get rid of it. I can observe it, I can sense the profound grief that lies ríght beneath the surface of it.
As I wrote, the defenses against it have dropped away. Defenses like: acting out (or acting 'in', for that matter...), blaming 'the world', blaming others inappropriately, blaming myself (most of all...), endless worrying, rationalizing, minimizing, taking refuge in knowledge per se, in intellectualization etc.
That is all quite recent, new and literally unknown to me and yet, there is some strangely deeply felt trust in it.
Sending you hugs of support in return, if that's okay,
Kingfisher
Thank you for reacting ánd the, very welcome!, hugs of support.
In a way I can welcome this pain and let it be there, without frantically wanting to get rid of it. I can observe it, I can sense the profound grief that lies ríght beneath the surface of it.
As I wrote, the defenses against it have dropped away. Defenses like: acting out (or acting 'in', for that matter...), blaming 'the world', blaming others inappropriately, blaming myself (most of all...), endless worrying, rationalizing, minimizing, taking refuge in knowledge per se, in intellectualization etc.
That is all quite recent, new and literally unknown to me and yet, there is some strangely deeply felt trust in it.
Sending you hugs of support in return, if that's okay,
Kingfisher