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#21
Recovery Journals / Re: I Am
Last post by TheBigBlue - February 15, 2026, 06:33:30 PMI hear you and I see you.
Sending more support
Sending more support
#22
Recovery Journals / Re: I Am
Last post by Bach - February 15, 2026, 06:17:18 PMI wish I wasn't a black hole of neediness and dysfunction.
#23
Please Introduce Yourself Here / Re: My Story
Last post by NarcKiddo - February 15, 2026, 05:51:35 PMWelcome, Dandelion22. I'm glad you found us, and glad you have access to therapy. I think many of us have struggled with recognising our backgrounds as traumatic, especially if we were decently cared for in a material sense in what outwardly appeared to be a "nice" family.
#24
Recovery Journals / Re: Miscellaneous ramblings of...
Last post by NarcKiddo - February 15, 2026, 05:47:27 PMHi, San. Yes, Luddite is a generally derogatory term these days. Originally the Luddites were people who worked in woollen mills. They objected to new machinery brought in and destroyed it because they feared it was going to take away their jobs (and they were probably correct!). Now it is generally used against people who wilfully refuse to adapt to new technology. Which is why I have applied it to my father but would never apply it to you. Not being good with technology is nothing to be ashamed of. That is likely to happen to us all as things move on. And will likely make all our lives a bit more inconvenient as we struggle to deal with innovations. I use the term Luddite against my father because he does not even try to get on board with technology that he does not want to get on board with. For instance he is totally fine with finding his way around his computer. He loves his emails and his internet. But he absolutely WILL NOT get to grips with a mobile phone. I am talking a basic one, not even a smartphone. I know he is perfectly capable but he does not want to be capable. The result is that others have to run around sorting things out for him, or have to turn up to his hospital bedside to impart a message because that is the only way they can. It's not an age thing and I do not use it as such. I'm sorry if it felt that way.
#25
Recovery Journals / Re: Living As All of Me
Last post by TheBigBlue - February 15, 2026, 05:08:54 PM🍋🥤 💛
#26
Recovery Journals / Re: Living As All of Me
Last post by SenseOrgan - February 15, 2026, 04:59:56 PMBreaking the cycle to the point of it being NBD to your child is a really FBD. I love you for this. And I hope you get the credit you deserve. Not in the least from yourself. 
❤️
❤️ #27
Recovery Journals / Re: Living As All of Me
Last post by Chart - February 15, 2026, 04:43:12 PMHey HannahOne, Late to the party... Sorry, can't put enough "yeah that's" to encapsulate what everyone's already said.
Sending support and understanding. Not the same with me, but similar enough to know the leaded suspense. So sorry.
Sending love. Support too. Thinking of you and thank you for sharing.
Sending support and understanding. Not the same with me, but similar enough to know the leaded suspense. So sorry.
Sending love. Support too. Thinking of you and thank you for sharing.
#28
Recovery Journals / Re: The ramblings of an abused...
Last post by GoSlash27 - February 15, 2026, 04:23:04 PM The frustrating part is that so many of my memories are as she describes; "perfect happy days".
But at some point there was DV, child abuse, and upheaval/ isolation in '74 (age 2/3) followed by a mostly clear stretch in the '70s with sporadic abuse, followed by chronic DV and child abuse throughout the '80s.
Most of it was good.
All of it has been obscured and marred by the trauma, including everything that happened after during adulthood. My son regularly recounts stories I do not recall although I have plenty of memories of that time.
It sucks that dissociative amnesia isn't more selective. It messed up everything.
But at some point there was DV, child abuse, and upheaval/ isolation in '74 (age 2/3) followed by a mostly clear stretch in the '70s with sporadic abuse, followed by chronic DV and child abuse throughout the '80s.
Most of it was good.
All of it has been obscured and marred by the trauma, including everything that happened after during adulthood. My son regularly recounts stories I do not recall although I have plenty of memories of that time.
It sucks that dissociative amnesia isn't more selective. It messed up everything.
#29
Please Introduce Yourself Here / Re: My Story
Last post by Dandelion22 - February 15, 2026, 04:12:33 PMI don't quite get how to reply to posts here yet, but thank you for the welcoming messages.
#30
Recovery Journals / Re: the next step
Last post by sanmagic7 - February 15, 2026, 04:10:02 PMthanks, hannah1. we decided to put red highlights in our hair this morning, which was fun, but i'm getting myself together now to go to the drugstore and get more medicine. she ran out of the stuff that works for her. so, can't really rest today, but at least i'm clean!
and the beat goes on. been eating a ton of sweets to get thru this bout of illness, cooked sloppy joe so we could just heat and eat, and now there's a barrel of dishes waiting for me. so, not a lot of rest yet. but i feel better today. my meds are helping, too.
and the beat goes on. been eating a ton of sweets to get thru this bout of illness, cooked sloppy joe so we could just heat and eat, and now there's a barrel of dishes waiting for me. so, not a lot of rest yet. but i feel better today. my meds are helping, too.