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#91
Physical Issues / Re: The Body Keeps The Score (...
Last post by sanmagic7 - December 02, 2025, 01:18:42 PMi could only read parts of it, but it helped me understand how the ailments of my body were not necessarily of my own making. 
#92
Recovery Journals / Re: Desert Flower's Recovery J...
Last post by Desert Flower - December 02, 2025, 01:08:45 PMI briefly considered giving up (yesterday too). That scares me.
I couldn't possibly of course. "I've got so much going for me.", as they say.
I just want this to stop. I just feel so stupid for not making myself feel better. I'm just so fed up with me having to do all the work to feel better. It's so unfair.
I will now do some shopping for my girl to get out of the house and have some different input for my mind.
I couldn't possibly of course. "I've got so much going for me.", as they say.
I just want this to stop. I just feel so stupid for not making myself feel better. I'm just so fed up with me having to do all the work to feel better. It's so unfair.
I will now do some shopping for my girl to get out of the house and have some different input for my mind.
#93
AD - Emotional Dysregulation / Re: What is Joy?
Last post by Blueberry - December 02, 2025, 01:06:32 PMFor me, joy is often a fleeting and very spontaneous emotion. I don't mind that it's fleeting. When I spontaneously smile or feel as if I'm radiating within, that's often brought about by joy.
For me, it's usually small things that bring joy: watching cute animals or birds and insects in the garden, seeing the first flowers of spring, seeing a flower still blooming in November, somebody spontaneously smiling at me especially a child, the sun coming through the clouds, talking to my own pets when I still had some, singing with others, looking at certain colours like certain blues and greens, colouring in using yellow and orange. I agree with Chart and NK that what gives one person joy is quite personal, so my examples are just that - what works for me. Your joys might be quite different.
I wrote a book of daily joys a good few years ago and that was really useful to have me dwelling on feeling joy even if just for a few minutes a day.
I think contentment is a really good state of being/mind to aim for. When I'm feeling contented, I think it's a longer-drawn out emotion than the spontaneous joy at the things I listed above. It's not so intense as joy, maybe that's why joy is fleeting for me, maybe I couldn't handle an intense feeling over a longer time without dissociating or something.
For me, it's usually small things that bring joy: watching cute animals or birds and insects in the garden, seeing the first flowers of spring, seeing a flower still blooming in November, somebody spontaneously smiling at me especially a child, the sun coming through the clouds, talking to my own pets when I still had some, singing with others, looking at certain colours like certain blues and greens, colouring in using yellow and orange. I agree with Chart and NK that what gives one person joy is quite personal, so my examples are just that - what works for me. Your joys might be quite different.
I wrote a book of daily joys a good few years ago and that was really useful to have me dwelling on feeling joy even if just for a few minutes a day.
I think contentment is a really good state of being/mind to aim for. When I'm feeling contented, I think it's a longer-drawn out emotion than the spontaneous joy at the things I listed above. It's not so intense as joy, maybe that's why joy is fleeting for me, maybe I couldn't handle an intense feeling over a longer time without dissociating or something.
#94
Ideas/Tools for Recovery / Re: Today I feel ..... (Part 4...
Last post by Blueberry - December 02, 2025, 12:50:10 PMIn this moment I feel JOY at something accomplished and JOY with that accomplishment being in line with one of my values: generosity and giving to those in need
#95
Recovery Journals / Re: Desert Flower's Recovery J...
Last post by Desert Flower - December 02, 2025, 10:10:57 AMHey Chart, keep on ranting, it really is fine! 
It would be great if you could start the support group. I think it would be very helpful for many.
I thought about what you wrote about acceptance. I think I might start another thread on that if I can.
Hey San,
I do hear what you're saying. My inner child really needs that confirmation too. I am doing a lot. So thank you.
Still not feeling well. I had to do my tax adminstration and that surely does not help the stress levels.
It would be great if you could start the support group. I think it would be very helpful for many.
I thought about what you wrote about acceptance. I think I might start another thread on that if I can.
Hey San,
I do hear what you're saying. My inner child really needs that confirmation too. I am doing a lot. So thank you.
Still not feeling well. I had to do my tax adminstration and that surely does not help the stress levels.
#96
Physical Issues / Re: The Body Keeps The Score (...
Last post by Desert Flower - December 02, 2025, 10:03:13 AMYes! It's a monumental book for us. And true.
I used to have a whole array of physical complaints like these too and understanding how this works has been tremendously helpful.
I used to have a whole array of physical complaints like these too and understanding how this works has been tremendously helpful.
#97
Successes, Progress? / Re: Setting boundaries
Last post by Desert Flower - December 02, 2025, 09:09:18 AMI'm very proud of you Ladyboar. This is a really big thing you did!
(I recently should have said 'no' to extra work and although I had seen the question coming, I could not do it. I had to go back later to tell them I cannot do it.)
(I recently should have said 'no' to extra work and although I had seen the question coming, I could not do it. I had to go back later to tell them I cannot do it.)
#98
Physical Issues / The Body Keeps The Score (Book...
Last post by DawnMaria - December 02, 2025, 05:12:05 AMAnyone read this book? (The body keeps the score) I found it after developing so many body issues, like fibromyalgia, Chronic Fatigue Syndrome, Hashimotos Disease, Osteoarthritis, not to mention the depression, anxiety and Substance abuse problems that I numbed myself with for most of my life. The book itself can be pretty triggering for some people, but it helped me to understand that the trauma, abuse, emotional neglect etc, from a baby through adulthood, definitely had a huge impact on my body too.
#99
Please Introduce Yourself Here / Re: Definitely still out in th...
Last post by TheBigBlue - December 02, 2025, 03:31:20 AMThank you, Chart, that really means a lot. I haven't seen the film, but I'll look it up - I'm curious now. And thank you for sharing a bit of your own story. Discovering CPTSD later in life has been incredibly disorienting for me too, but finding others who are navigating similar paths is helping more than I expected. I'm grateful to be here and grateful for your welcome.
#100
Successes, Progress? / Re: Setting boundaries
Last post by Chart - December 01, 2025, 08:47:02 PMWell done, LadyBoar!