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#91
Recovery Journals / Re: starting over
Last post by sanmagic7 - December 02, 2025, 01:41:52 PMthanks so much, blueberry. it's being a great trip going thru all that again. good timing, too. i'm smiling 
#92
Recovery Journals / Re: starting over
Last post by Blueberry - December 02, 2025, 01:36:41 PMWow, san! Your story of the Beatles and then the Stones 
Wonderful!
Quote from: sanmagic7 on December 02, 2025, 01:31:16 PMno anxiety last nite, and i slept all nite, got close to 8 hrs. feel pretty good this morning. and that's a weird feeling, but i'll make do! lol!
Wonderful!
#93
Recovery Journals / Re: starting over
Last post by sanmagic7 - December 02, 2025, 01:31:16 PMthank you chart and DF. i really flew back into my life for those paragraphs! that was a pretty good feeling all by itself.
no anxiety last nite, and i slept all nite, got close to 8 hrs. feel pretty good this morning. and that's a weird feeling, but i'll make do! lol!
no anxiety last nite, and i slept all nite, got close to 8 hrs. feel pretty good this morning. and that's a weird feeling, but i'll make do! lol!
#94
Recovery Journals / Re: Desert Flower's Recovery J...
Last post by sanmagic7 - December 02, 2025, 01:26:59 PMit is indeed unfair, DF. no truer words ever said. we've been left w/ all the clutter and damage to manage amid working at having a life at the same time. i can totally relate to wanting it to stop. *sigh*. i'm glad you didn't give up - i'm glad you're here. one day at a time, right? or one hour, one minute sometimes. we're surrounding you with support and care. love and hugs 
#95
Physical Issues / Re: The Body Keeps The Score (...
Last post by sanmagic7 - December 02, 2025, 01:18:42 PMi could only read parts of it, but it helped me understand how the ailments of my body were not necessarily of my own making.
#96
Recovery Journals / Re: Desert Flower's Recovery J...
Last post by Desert Flower - December 02, 2025, 01:08:45 PMI briefly considered giving up (yesterday too). That scares me.
I couldn't possibly of course. "I've got so much going for me.", as they say.
I just want this to stop. I just feel so stupid for not making myself feel better. I'm just so fed up with me having to do all the work to feel better. It's so unfair.
I will now do some shopping for my girl to get out of the house and have some different input for my mind.
I couldn't possibly of course. "I've got so much going for me.", as they say.
I just want this to stop. I just feel so stupid for not making myself feel better. I'm just so fed up with me having to do all the work to feel better. It's so unfair.
I will now do some shopping for my girl to get out of the house and have some different input for my mind.
#97
AD - Emotional Dysregulation / Re: What is Joy?
Last post by Blueberry - December 02, 2025, 01:06:32 PMFor me, joy is often a fleeting and very spontaneous emotion. I don't mind that it's fleeting. When I spontaneously smile or feel as if I'm radiating within, that's often brought about by joy.
For me, it's usually small things that bring joy: watching cute animals or birds and insects in the garden, seeing the first flowers of spring, seeing a flower still blooming in November, somebody spontaneously smiling at me especially a child, the sun coming through the clouds, talking to my own pets when I still had some, singing with others, looking at certain colours like certain blues and greens, colouring in using yellow and orange. I agree with Chart and NK that what gives one person joy is quite personal, so my examples are just that - what works for me. Your joys might be quite different.
I wrote a book of daily joys a good few years ago and that was really useful to have me dwelling on feeling joy even if just for a few minutes a day.
I think contentment is a really good state of being/mind to aim for. When I'm feeling contented, I think it's a longer-drawn out emotion than the spontaneous joy at the things I listed above. It's not so intense as joy, maybe that's why joy is fleeting for me, maybe I couldn't handle an intense feeling over a longer time without dissociating or something.
For me, it's usually small things that bring joy: watching cute animals or birds and insects in the garden, seeing the first flowers of spring, seeing a flower still blooming in November, somebody spontaneously smiling at me especially a child, the sun coming through the clouds, talking to my own pets when I still had some, singing with others, looking at certain colours like certain blues and greens, colouring in using yellow and orange. I agree with Chart and NK that what gives one person joy is quite personal, so my examples are just that - what works for me. Your joys might be quite different.
I wrote a book of daily joys a good few years ago and that was really useful to have me dwelling on feeling joy even if just for a few minutes a day.
I think contentment is a really good state of being/mind to aim for. When I'm feeling contented, I think it's a longer-drawn out emotion than the spontaneous joy at the things I listed above. It's not so intense as joy, maybe that's why joy is fleeting for me, maybe I couldn't handle an intense feeling over a longer time without dissociating or something.
#98
Ideas/Tools for Recovery / Re: Today I feel ..... (Part 4...
Last post by Blueberry - December 02, 2025, 12:50:10 PMIn this moment I feel JOY at something accomplished and JOY with that accomplishment being in line with one of my values: generosity and giving to those in need
#99
Recovery Journals / Re: Desert Flower's Recovery J...
Last post by Desert Flower - December 02, 2025, 10:10:57 AMHey Chart, keep on ranting, it really is fine!
It would be great if you could start the support group. I think it would be very helpful for many.
I thought about what you wrote about acceptance. I think I might start another thread on that if I can.
Hey San,
I do hear what you're saying. My inner child really needs that confirmation too. I am doing a lot. So thank you.
Still not feeling well. I had to do my tax adminstration and that surely does not help the stress levels.
It would be great if you could start the support group. I think it would be very helpful for many.
I thought about what you wrote about acceptance. I think I might start another thread on that if I can.
Hey San,
I do hear what you're saying. My inner child really needs that confirmation too. I am doing a lot. So thank you.
Still not feeling well. I had to do my tax adminstration and that surely does not help the stress levels.
#100
Physical Issues / Re: The Body Keeps The Score (...
Last post by Desert Flower - December 02, 2025, 10:03:13 AMYes! It's a monumental book for us. And true.
I used to have a whole array of physical complaints like these too and understanding how this works has been tremendously helpful.
I used to have a whole array of physical complaints like these too and understanding how this works has been tremendously helpful.