I Have Been Hating Being Born Female, I Think Partly Because I Want to Fight Bac

[BlueMoon_]

So I have been having troubles being a woman for a bit now, especially about strength. It pisses me off that not only do men run the patriarchy but they are also stronger than the women they oppress.

Seeing clips in TV or movies where men are being sexist or abusive makes me wish I were a guy so I were strong enough to beat them up for their mysogyny.

How do I make sense of these feelings, and what should I do?

[Kizzie]

I don't think any of us female, male or otherwise want to ever feel weak, oppressed, demeaned, etc because of our gender. WHat I do think is true for us (survivors) is learning that we are or can be strong not only on the outside but perhaps more importantly, on the inside. I know for myself that as I've learned to set and enforce my boundaries, people don't mess with me. They can sense it's not a good idea because I will stand my ground I think.

That's one reason so many of us are here, to learn or relearn that we are or can be strong, capable people who have solid boundaries and a clear sense of right and wrong. Look at all the adversity we have survived - that takes strength even if the strategies we use(d) were not quite how we wanted to protect ourselves.  We did what we had to when we were younger and didn't have much if any power.  Now that we are adults we do have power we can use.

So, I guess my suggestion is - find your power.