How to heal shame

[sigiriuk]

JP Sears to the rescue.........(again)

https://youtu.be/j67O34fMlHQ

Slim

[Not Alone]

Thanks. Made note of this to listen to at another time.

[marta1234]

Thank you Slim for the video, I just watched it and hit me to the core. I have so much shame, and throughout the video I could picture it as a young kid (of myself). For me, shame is entangled with my fear that has followed me throughout my whole life. The video was very insightful.

[Marian82]

Thanks, that is helpful.

[mojay]

thank you for posting, Slim. Really like this video. I really identified when he was talking about becoming shame and becoming the poison. I have felt like poison for so long and never really connected it to my shame. Looking forward to browsing more of his videos

[Taylor27]

  Thank you for sharing this video

[lohmannd]

I just found this post, and feel that the video completely resonated with me.  Many thanks for posting this,

[Papa Coco]

Great video Slim. Thanks for sharing it.

I especially like his "A fish doesn't know it's swimming in water" analogy. I recently complained to my long-time therapist that I feel like I'm getting worse instead of better. He then reminded me that I used to be so dissociated that I thought our hour sessions were being cut short to five minutes and that he would have to make me sit with a glass of water for ten minutes "waking back up" before letting me drive my car home. It turns out that now that I'm not dissociated 24/7 anymore, NOW I know what it feels like to be dissociated versus not dissociated. (Frozen vs thawed). Now that I know how good it feels to be unfrozen for most of the day, NOW I feel the difference. I'm not living in the pain constantly anymore, so now I know how it feels to go in and out of it. So while I THINK I'm feeling worse than before, I'm actually feeling better, but now I know the difference.

[Dante]

Thanks for that, Papa Coco.  I hadn't thought of it that way.  I'm feeling worse, but the fact that I'm feeling at all means I'm feeling better.  Dissociation to me means watching a movie vs. actually seeing, and most of the time, I'm just watching a movie.  But more and more, I'm catching snippets of seeing.  They only last a minute or so, and then I try hard to get them back, but they don't come on their own.  But just to be able to see is awesome.

I'm thawing.  Thanks for that visual.