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[sunny0725]

Hey All, I'm glad to join this forum. I've been no contact with my 4 older sibs for almost 10 yrs and this is the 2nd time around. Years of gang ups, smear campaigns, scapegoat + narcissistic abuse, plus untreated addiction issues. I do feel in a much better place today in life thanks to forums like this speaking truth to taboos, secrets, and multigenerational dysfunctional patterns. I work in mental health field too so helping others recover from CPTSD has been rewarding. Looking forward to connecting to other brave souls on this powerful healing journey.

[Kizzie]

Wow Sunny, sounds like you have had a plateful of N abuse. Those of us who don't go along with the N chaos do seem to end up the scapegoat so the N's can feel they are the normal ones. I wonder what happened when you stepped away? Did one of them become the new scapegoat or were you still it even though you were no contact?  It doesn't matter in the end I know but because they end up so BIG in our lives I do often wonder about what it's like for them when they don't have us around to gaslight, blame, conduct smear campaigns, etc.

Anyway, glad you found your way here and I hope you find some good support, resources and connection.   

[Little2Nothing]

Welcome sunny0725!

[Papa Coco]

Sunny

Welcome to the forum. I'm glad you are here.

Your story resonates with me. I went No Contact with my FOO in 2010, and my story sounds like yours: 4 siblings and a dad and a long list of cousins and nieces and nephews who all participated in 50 years of gang ups, smear campaigns, scapegoat + narcissistic abuse. I used to say "Every word I speak can and will be used against me eventually." It did me in. I'm VERY Sorry it happened to you too because I truly understand the constant hypervigilance that a family like that gives us.

While I'm sorry it happened to you, I'm glad you have the strength and wisdom to reach out and find support. And I think it's wonderful that you find solace in helping others who suffer under emotional distress. That sounds like a successful way to take your less than positive history and give it a positive present-day purpose.

My T often reminds me that it takes wisdom and courage to reach out, rather than just give up. I'm glad you have that wisdom and courage.

Welcome.

[Blueberry]

Welcome sunny! I like your name

It's good to hear you're in a better place than you were. Hope to see you more around the forum and hear more about you including your healing story.

[NarcKiddo]

Welcome. It's great to have you here.