Healing journal (tw) Angering / strong emotions

Little2Nothing · November 18, 2024, 12:42:22 PM

When my kids were young we didn't have a television. We spent time olaying games and reading.

It wasn't until they were in their teens that we got a TV. It was not a good choice.

My grandkids are all glued to their devices. They have no concept of imagination, running outside and playing for hours. They have no innocence or real wonder about life or nature.

They know things that, at their age, they shouldn't. They grow up too fast and haven't the maturity needed to navigate what they've been exposed to.

Children should explore, laugh and know how to live without stress.

StartingHealing · November 19, 2024, 02:28:31 AM

Hi PC, Chart, and Little2Nothing

PC, I feel you, them (insert favorite cuss phrase(s) here) devices.. I 'get' the safety aspects, I "get" being able to be reached at any time by family. I'm seriously thinking of getting a dumb phone as my daily. Texting is cool and all but crapola it's turned into like work email. Us critters are analog by nature, digital isn't within the wheel house, you know? Idea for you. Get a Faraday bag or bags and that cuts all communication from reaching that device. I'm sure that certain companies are wondering what in blazes is going on with my current device. Anyway, have a hour or two, no devices, no computers, nada nothing. Remember that the behavior of the device is programmed to make you addicted.

Chart, good for you! As a possible, there is some good family entertainment if you go back a ways. The Swiss Family Robinson was a movie and they did decent with the adaptation. This was done.. in the 60's I think. The Lord of the Rings trilogy(peter jackson did it) is faithful to the source material. The first star wars trilogy. Monty Python tho, is classic. c.s. lewis could tell a good tale for sure as well as Tolkien. There is all the wizard of oz books. T.V. was limited viewing when I was growing up (4 channels) and it was in the evening (I was the remote) and shows like Hee Haw or nature on PBS. Then it was off to bed. We would make popcorn and sit and watch for that hour and that was it.

Little2Nothing, Children should explore, laugh and know how to live without stress. 100% agree. Generally speaking the devices have been hyped up and then under performs so terribly.

You know, there are devices available that when turned on, jams all cellular signals. Now if that just happened to be in a residence, and just happened to be turned on at appropriate times, {dang, the network is having issues again.. What can we do? Oh I have this game, or lets figure out what we can make with left overs} Shoot the device could even be put on a timer. (grin)

Tech like nicotine is addictive. Gotta take steps, you know?

Little2Nothing · November 19, 2024, 02:11:06 PM

StartingHealing, I like your deviousness! I will have to look into one. It would be nice to see my grandkids faces instead of the tops of their heads.

StartingHealing · November 19, 2024, 02:48:05 PM

Quote from: Little2Nothing on November 19, 2024, 02:11:06 PMStartingHealing, I like your deviousness! I will have to look into one. It would be nice to see my grandkids faces instead of the tops of their heads.

Unplug the wifi router / modem, turn on the cellular jammer, and ... bob's your uncle!

There's lots of stuff can do like.. the flour & salt home made play dough, sculpt something and then let it dry, blowing bubbles, making paper mache things like masks that they can paint and wear, paper airplanes and taking them outside to see how far they fly, what about mixed media art type stuff? Like gluing macaroni to paper and then painting it? Who can climb a tree? How many lady bugs can they catch? playing tag? I even made mud pies with my kiddo, quite a few times. Raking up leaves into a pile then jumping in. Oh yeah, blowing up a balloon and seeing how long everybody working together can keep it from touching the ground while it gets bumped from one to the other. the kicker I think might be attention span on the wee ones. I've noticed that the younger the folks are the shorter the attention span.

Good luck!

Wishing you and yours all the best

Chart · November 19, 2024, 07:02:59 PM

StartingHealing · November 20, 2024, 11:43:49 PM

20 Nov 2024

What a day. Unknown reason why last knight was so restless for me. Up and down, up and down, 2 hour blocks of sleep at the best. Bleh for today. Remembered how many times in the past there was sooooo many days like to today. It happened enough that I figured out how to somehow do a work around, and still be able to get through the day.

Been focused on letting s go. Been through some stuff in my time in this realm. I sometimes still wonder about the 'why' behind why I went through what I went through. Will be hitting the hay way early tonight.

Wishing all here all the best.

StartingHealing · November 22, 2024, 02:32:20 PM

22 Nov 2024

Memories. What a thing they can be. I know that I was dealing with a personality disordered person, and yet in the moment, their behaviors towards me were sooooo (insert cuss word here) damaging. I'm better though. As I keep doing the work, I'm looking forward to the day where there is no charge left in them.

Now, when certain memories come up I can grin and shake my head at them. The current one is this: the former spouse is in the middle of a split, which is where they are going deep deep into the anger, hate, rage being projected outwards. Standing in the kitchen, she's screaming at me with this. " I should blow my face off with the shotgun on your birthday so you never forget all the pain that you have put me through."

Not even going to try to unpack it since the supposed pain was self inflicted.

Wishing all the brave souls here, all the best

Chart · November 22, 2024, 09:22:24 PM

I'm working with memories too. I'm finding something like accepting their presence, then actively letting it go, even a little, if possible, is getting me someplace. But I have to do the two, in that order... one without the other, or in reverse order, doesn't action immediate and consistent relief... which is to say, toning down the intensity of the "unwanted" emotion.

Did that make a bit of sense?

StartingHealing · November 22, 2024, 10:39:51 PM

Chart,

It does make sense. I once read? heard? somewhere that it's the emotional charge that keeps a memory vivid. That is why hypnotherapists pull the charge out of a memory so it fades. Which sounds like that is what you are doing.

There are still times where it really sucks. To put it mildly. Now though, when a memory pops up, I can look at it with the knowing I have now, which changes the dynamic. I don't know if they will ever go away, I mean I have memories back to when I was a little fella. Good and otherwise.

Now though, I can "see" it differently. Like the adoptive mom. there were "issues" that were not acknowledged with her and so, yeah it was crushing at the time, but now, I can see how I was collateral damage. I was caught in the slow motion mess of her life.

Just like being let go by my biological mother as a just born. Lot's of issues with her, and yeah, there are still parts that still have a very large tender area around that, and on a biological level there is a yearning for her. that's the thing, the knowing changes the context which changes the meaning. Again, I was caught in the waves of her self destructive patterns.

Well, if she hadn't let me go I wouldn't be here in the now that I'm experiencing. Lots of possibles of a really not good type if I had been kept. Super-Max, or dead or wet brain or maimed or I might have turned into one of those people in her FOO that kept spreading the self destructive patterns including abuse.

Wishing all here all the best