Pastor Tim Fletcher

[irishrebel]

i happened to bump in to tim fletchers work on youtube a while back and he definitely 'gets' complex trauma. ive learned so much from watching his videos
most are on youtube and the rest + talk notes can be watched on findingfreedom.ca/talks/

https://youtu.be/6IxEwPMqB-c

[Regret]

Thanks for that link.

I've only gotten through the first two with the second giving me a much deeper understanding of how my life was stolen. The discussions of shame, values, self worth was enlightening. While his first video only included 3 "Fs," not including the 4th Fawn or Please typology, he does spend time in the second video talking about finding ones value in doing for others which leads to being used by others which to me would be the Fawn/Please typology. I've listened to the second video a few times now.

And, yes, the recent discussion on the 4Fs was well summarized by woodsgnome

     https://cptsd.org/forum/index.php?topic=11955.msg87217#msg87217

in that the typologies overlap, can be fluctuating tendencies, while possibly having one more predominant than the others. While listening to Pastor Tim, it made sense to me finding myself in 3 of the 4, having very rarely been a fighter, mostly living in or with the Fawn/Please typology.

Overall, his videos (the first at the link below and 4 more  - total of 5, well maybe 7 on cPTSD and a few other related videos).

     https://youtu.be/6IxEwPMqB-c

offer a different perspective on cPTSD but it's all there. I found his way of looking at childhood trauma and cPTSD very helpful in seeing all that I have experienced from new perspective, something that helped my understanding of what happened to me, when, why and how. Looking forward to watching 3 through 5 this week.

I continue to be very sad each time I realize that the life I lived for the past 60+ years was not mine and regret all I did and didn't do in those years.

[irishrebel]

he usually updates his videos at the weekends. he did a really good one last week on codependency which is something i found hard to understand
http://findingfreedom.ca/talks/

[Regret]

Got through the first 4 1/2 now and while I realize this is somewhat like looking at cPTSD from 10,000 feet, his overview really hits home to me in that 80% of what he talks about, I was at one point.

His point about being stuck in development when traumatized makes my dream of talking to myself when I was 3 all the more credible that something happened in my head that night after 60+ years of living with the disorder.

And some of the things he talks about still affect me, some of the residue is still there but his making me aware of it and how to handle it is really helping me move forward. So many of his parental examples I remember well as being the way my "normal" life was during my first 10 to 15 year of life.

I listen to each of his video a few times in that my mind wanders off when one of his examples hits home. Thanks again for that link.

[irishrebel]

re: the 4 f's...ive started listening to a podcast made by a young couple. she has cptsd.
after the introcuctions in episode 1 she goes in to talking about the 4 f's and it was really interesting. i have to listen to everything a few times as my mind wanders away on tangents. dissociating, perhaps
if you have podcast listening time all the episodes are here https://soundcloud.com/complexitiespodcast

[SamwiseGamgee]

Thank you for this. Been needing a Christian paradigm to filter this through. Will be checking out and passing along.

[BecomingMe]

THE CLEAREST & MOST HONEST roadmap to healing from CPTSD

I haven't logged on for a while - had so much going on. I discovered Tim Fletcher a few days ago and I'm just astonished at how clearly he pulls together all the scientific evidence, years of ground level experience and presents such helpful, easily digestible information. I'm currently watching his 5-part series on the Journey of Recovery:  https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLpvbEN3KkqoJuyF4LI62cl09yb2DJgeZ2&si=kkBFkVb9zNqDoOyA

I decided to log in today JUST to share this because I NEED structure and framework and have finally found that in his work - which is another great reason to share him. I'm struggling at the moment but have had some brief periods of respite for the first time in many months (after a full mental breakdown last August). I'm holding them close in my heart so that I can continue moving forward. I really hope others find this helpful too - we all DESERVE to heal and ultimately (hopefully!) thrive 

[SenseOrgan]

So good to see Tim Fletcher pop up here. He has a talent to explain the complexity of what we're dealing with in a very clear way. His understanding of shame is excellent. He leaves the mind no room to doubt what is going on when a proper diagnosis has not been given (yet). I understand that a part of his lectures is behind a paywall and not everybody is happy with that. From what I remember watching that was/is freely available, it's high value for a person in despair without access to appropriate health care. I don't know anything about the man himself, but I'd swear he has been through it himself by the way he talks about it.