Feeling Like a Ghost in a Crowded Room

[BrokenBlue]

Hello everyone  /waves

I'm new here, just joined the other day. While my name here is BrokenBlue, feel free to call me Blue

I've spent a lot of years trying to figure out where I belong. And like many people here, trauma has shaped much of my life. Therapy, diagnoses, depression, isolation, and trying to rebuild after years of simply surviving have become familiar territory to me.

What has been hardest, though, isn't the trauma itself - It's the loneliness.

Honestly, it's felt like I've been nothing but an unseen ghost drifting languidly through a crowded room while everyone else seems to have a place where they belong.

For years I've tried to connect with people, make friends, and build something meaningful. Occasionally I've met good people, but more often than not I found myself watching others slowly drift away. After enough of that, it becomes difficult not to wonder whether I'm the common denominator as to why that's so (if that makes any sense).

I don't really know what I'm looking for here other than understanding and honesty. Maybe conversation. Maybe connection. Maybe simply reassurance that I'm not the only person who feels this disconnected from the rest of the world.

I've spent so much time isolated that sometimes I feel like I've forgotten how to be part of life instead of just observing it.

If any of that sounds familiar, I'd be interested in hearing your experience.

[TheBigBlue]

Hi Fellow Blue 

What you wrote about loneliness and feeling like an unseen ghost in a crowded room really resonated with me. And no, you are definitely not alone in feeling this disconnected from the rest of the world.

Earlier this year I actually tried to put my own experience of loneliness into words in a post on OOTS (see quoted link below). It's long and might be a bit overwhelming, so please feel completely free to skip my ramblings and just read the responses from other OOTS members to my post.

For me, seeing how many people recognized different parts of it was incredibly validating. I feel like I had to "teach" my therapist a little about the lived experience of different kinds of lonelinesses. I have since developed that original post into a scientific article I'm working on [apparently turning painful experiences into conceptual frameworks is one of my ways of processing and making meaning. ]

I'm glad you found us, Blue.  

Most people assume loneliness means lack of people.
But loneliness is not one thing.
Loneliness comes in different forms depending on which developmental need was unmet and during which developmental window. Multiple forms can coexist in the same person.
In CPTSD, ....