Scapegoating the family whistleblower

[Aurora1931]

Sending you solidarity and support. I wish you had been my brother.

[Honey Bunny]

I was the family scapegoat too. I cut my entire family out of my life when they all took the side of my powerful abuser and helped him take my child from me. It was the best decision I have made. You did the right thing and hearing your story and knowing how hard it is to be doing the right thing yet have it be you who everyone is against is such a traumatizing and hard thing. I don't know you but I am proud of you for standing up for children against sexual abuse. You were the person all of us wish we had protecting us when we were young.

[Still Me]

Aurora ,Honey Bunny
I didn't see your posts til today. Thank you for your messages of support.  I liked them very much .

[Still Me]

Kizzie, big blue, dolly, I will definitely come back to ye guys shortly on how/ why certain family members scapegoated me . Im actually heading into 1st  radiotherapy tomorrow morning which im pleased and very optimistic about so I've been doing lot of work outside( chainsawing,  clearing)to have things sorted. All good .

[Hope67]

Hi Still Me,
I hope the 1st radiotherapy session is okay.  I also feel a lot about what you wrote when you protected, and although I am struggling to find my right words now, I just wanted to say that I am glad you're here.

[NarcKiddo]

I hope your radiotherapy was not too uncomfortable, and, of course, I hope the course is successful.

[Still Me]

Hi there Narckiddo &Hope67
Doing pretty good so far. Ive done 3 intense  radiotherapy out of 5 . 4th is tomorrow morning. Im on new hi tech  programme to limit side effects . Only 180 of us on it out of 4500 lads diagnosed this year. No side effects yet from radiotherapy,  but hormone therapy ie testosterone lowering is definitely working but I feel   excellent and hopefully touch wood  it works

[1959 CPTSD SURVIVOR]

Hi. Sorry you had to carry the burden of his actions and your family's reactions. For what it's worth, I wish someone in my family had protected me. I don't understand how so many people can know what's happening, but nobody steps up to protect a child in danger. If your nieces and nephews were able to remain safe because you wouldn't turn a blind eye, then it was worth the agony. We must protect those who cannot protect themselves, even when our families are mad at us for exposing the disgusting truth. Mine didn't like it when I stopped hiding from the ugly truth. Some didn't understand. Some didn't acknowledge. Others got mad. But I kept my kids safe from them. In the words of Picard, "It stops here! No further!"

[Still Me]

I totally agree with you 1959 Survivor, protecting and nurturing children is non negotiable.
I think when you talk to your kids in years to come about that happened they will love and appreciate you all the more. Regards