Feeling lost

[Echo]

Hi everybody.

I want to like my therapist and I have for a long time. I'm afraid there's something wrong with me, or that I'm just imagining things, but there have been times I've felt invalidated, talked over, like my thoughts/feelings are wrong, and that seems a little unhealthy. After my last session I've felt pretty out of it.

She primarily focuses on CBT I think, and says I shouldn't focus on the past.

Any ideas?

[Dee]

My therapist is a CBT therapist and tells me I need to refile the past.  I have lived in the past, but no longer.

Perhaps you can write her.  There is nothing wrong with you.  Perhaps it isn't a fit, or perhaps she simply cannot read your mind and needs to know what you are thinking.

[sanmagic7]

hi,

i think if you feel it, it's true rather than imaginary.  if you're coming away from a therapy session feeling worse about yourself, to my mind it means there's a problem.

i hope you can talk to your t about this, let him/her know how you're feeling and why.  i also hope it'll bring resolution.  a proper response from your t on such an issue would be to validate your feelings and show an interest in turning things around for you by resolving the issue.

best to you with this.  and, as dee mentioned, it just may not be a good fit.  that happens a lot when trauma issues are at hand.  big hug.