The road to recovery

[Randomfairy]

First post here. Be gentle.
So it's been what, almost 2 years since I got out of my abusive marriage. Two kids later. While I do not quite take credit for "getting out" I was in the process of preparing to leave him, seeing as things were not changing, and 7 years had been just about enough for me to understand that it wasn't going to get better. Before I could actually leave of my own volition, he had an "episode" and threw my stuff out the window into the street for the umpteenth time. And I just went with it. Took the kids, and drove off into the night. Never looked back. He sees them. We still talk when we HAVE to. There are so many emotions to work through. I write about it sometimes. ( https://mikimouseroo.wordpress.com/ )

But despite the challenges that we are faced with, I do think that this is a battle we can win. There are bad days, there are worse days, and from time to time there are good days. Stay strong. I don't even know why I chose today to post on here. There was conflict. Maybe it's that. Maybe I just realized again that it wasn't my fault. Some things you can never hear too often. It's so easy to forget. But it does get better. Right?

[Three Roses]

Welcome! Yes it can get better. I'm in my 60's and really just now digging down to the root of the problem, although I've been semi aware since my 30's.

Glad to meet you, thanks for joining!

[Dee]

I am getting better.  I was really bad, but I keep doing just a little better.  I found that it is hard work and work I have to.  I have been able to set boundaries, tolerate uncomfortable emotions, and use tools to manage anxiety. 

[woodsgnome]

Thanks for posting today, Randomfairy.

It's always worth remembering what's called recovery can seem more like an extreme roller-coaster ride. There really isn't a straight linear path applicable to all. But somehow we're all here, needing to know we're not alone, but acknowledging that we can move past. And even come out of it well. Not easy. But worse would have been never trying, losing self-respect along with the rest of it.

Best to you...