ending therapy

[kezkel101]

I feel like the world is crashing down around me. I'm scared and alone and unsure what to do. I feel dissociated and floaty like nothing is real I'm just floating through it
I have been in therapy for a year and a half now and have got no where and just font feel like I'm getting what I need. I have told my therapist I'm not going back and she doesn't seem to care at all. I'm regretting quitting cause it means that I have no one at all no one to talk to or contact when things get bad but at the same time I know there is no point going back cause it wasn't helping
All I want in the world is my old therapist back when I was with him I felt safe and like I could face everything but I know I cant have him back
I cant get another therapist as nhs wont help and I cant afford anyone else
what do I do know

[LittleBird]

I'm wondering if you could speak to your GP/CPN/psychiatrist to explain what went wrong? Sounds like there wasn't much of a connection with the therapist to begin with, maybe it would be helpful to explain that?

[Sceal]

Sometimes we don't connect with our T's, and that can be painful and damaging in the course of healing and recovery.
You mention nhs, so I then assume that you're somewhere in britain. I have a friend from the uk who couldn't go to a therapist, but instead got a psychiatric nurse to talk to. Is that possible for you? It might not be a psychologist or psychiatrist, but nurses can be utterly life saving when it comes to mental health.
Whenever I went into between periods of therapy, I'd have a psych. nurse and my GP, and both where vital. They might not have been able to give me the wisdom of a T, but they were able to give me support and let me know I was being heard and not alone in everything.

[Eyessoblue]

Hi, just wondered why will the nhs not help? I'm seeing my psychologist through the nhs, have to do 12 weeks then be discharged for 2 weeks then go back again 2 weeks after by a self referral, I can see the original therapist as she knows my history etc, but if I hadn't have been comfortable I could have asked for a change, originally I was given a male therapist and I point blank refused and that was fine no questions asked and have the one now which I'm very lucky with as she's helping me a lot.

[kezkel101]

I'm wondering if you could speak to your GP/CPN/psychiatrist to explain what went wrong? Sounds like there wasn't much of a connection with the therapist to begin with, maybe it would be helpful to explain that?

I see my therapist privately she took me on as her 1 free place. I don't have a CPN or psychiatrist and my gp just says she cant help. I think the connection is there and we get on but I just feel like she doesn't get me

[kezkel101]

Sometimes we don't connect with our T's, and that can be painful and damaging in the course of healing and recovery.
You mention nhs, so I then assume that you're somewhere in britain. I have a friend from the uk who couldn't go to a therapist, but instead got a psychiatric nurse to talk to. Is that possible for you? It might not be a psychologist or psychiatrist, but nurses can be utterly life saving when it comes to mental health.
Whenever I went into between periods of therapy, I'd have a psych. nurse and my GP, and both where vital. They might not have been able to give me the wisdom of a T, but they were able to give me support and let me know I was being heard and not alone in everything.

Hi. yes I am in England. I went to the nhs and the lower service said they could not provide therapy or a psychiatric nurse as I was to complex and the higher tear said I need long term support and they don't provide that. Ive been seeing the therapist for over a year and we get on she just isn't the same as my old therapist and I know I shouldn't compare but she just doesn't get me in the same way

[kezkel101]

Hi, just wondered why will the nhs not help? I'm seeing my psychologist through the nhs, have to do 12 weeks then be discharged for 2 weeks then go back again 2 weeks after by a self referral, I can see the original therapist as she knows my history etc, but if I hadn't have been comfortable I could have asked for a change, originally I was given a male therapist and I point blank refused and that was fine no questions asked and have the one now which I'm very lucky with as she's helping me a lot.

I went to the nhs and the lower service said they could not provide therapy or a psychiatric nurse as I was to complex and the higher tear said I need long term support (ive been in therapy with current therapist for a year and a half twice a week) and they don't provide that.

[Eyessoblue]

Hi, I'm really confused by that, surely if you are complex and higher tear they would be able to provide you with something, surely if you were lower tear and not as complex then you would just have a short amount of therapy? I can't understand (I'm not judging you by the way I just think you're not being treated right)  that they would almost say you are too complex then don't give you anything. I've been told mine is complex on the nhs and see a psychologist in 12 week bursts then stop for 2 weeks (nhs ridiculous guidelines) then go back to where I've finished from last time, I also have EMDR alongside therapy for as long as I need it for. I guess where you live in England may have a lot to do with it, but this doesn't sound right to me. What have they suggested that you do now then?