I want revenge

[safetyinnumbers]

I want revenge on those who have hurt me. I am angry at them for turning me into this messed up person.
Is that wrong??

[Eyessoblue]

No it's definitely not wrong that you feel like that but actually getting revenge probably is;
All your inner hurt is coming through, you're probably angry and feel 'just' in your way of wanting to get even, but as much as you feel the need to do this it's not going to help you in the long run.
I too felt like that but have had to learn not to accept it but find reasons for it to justify it in my mind.
For me it's about realising that my parents also came from an abusive background and had no parenting skills of their own so therefore mirrored their parenting on me. By realising this it's some how made me understand it a bit more making me feel less revengeful.
Don't get me wrong I have days where I'm so angry about it that revenge does seem like the only way forward but I've had to deal with it as anger and learn to move my anger more appropriately.
For me to help myself I wrote them all a letter, saying exactly how I felt/feel what I think of them etc, but I didn't post the letter I set fire to it, my way of saying I've told you and now I've ended it, this could be something you could maybe try?
It's very hard to forgive people and I can't do that but I can understand it more and have to try and prove that I'm a better person then them and I've done ok so that I choose for me to not let them carry on destroying me.

[jimrich]

I will only speak for myself.
I wanted revenge in the worst way when I came to see and accept what my dad had done to me with his sadistic ridicule and abusive violence (he was a HITTER). Fortunately, I was in a 12 step program that promoted honor and dignity plus he lived on the other side of the country so my desire to take revenge, now that I no longer FEARED him, was never acted upon.  I had to express my rage & hatred in journals and anger work to release the OCEAN of bitter, hateful rage I had  stored up inside of me since about 4-5 years old.  I'm glad now that I was not able to take revenge on him. I've gradually gotten over my bitter hatered of them through loving therapy and just time. 

[GoSlash27]

I want revenge on those who have hurt me. I am angry at them for turning me into this messed up person.
Is that wrong??

S.I.N.,
Nope. Not even a little bit. I just went through this exact same crisis not even a month ago. 
 You, just like every other human on the planet, want revenge against those who have wronged you. That is a normal healthy part of a psyche.
 The question is... If that part of you has been locked away and silenced for decades, you're probably uncomfortable with the fact that it even exists (I was terrified of mine). How do you reintegrate it in a *healthy* way?
 Short answer: Every part of your psyche is there to help you live a good life and be safe, even the parts that you're not comfortable with.

Best,
-Slashy