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[Papa Coco]

Parnassuspete,

OMG. Your comment that she interpreted your action as hostility resonates so much with me. My older sister, 11 years my senior, did that to me all the time. For a little while I had an email footer that said "Sincerely" and then my name. That monster interpreted my standard footer as an act of aggression.

Here's what I believe: BULLIES hate one thing more than ANYTHING else in the world: They hate it when their victims stand up to them or escape them. That will send them into a rage faster than anything else. By you ending the call, or by me allowing my standard footer to end an email, felt, to them, like we escaped one of THEIR attacks. So, they reacted by blasting the airwaves with lies about how we are too emotional or too unstable to participate in family.  AND if this was about a parents' funeral, then the will is at stake. When my parents died, my sister wanted both ALL of their money and ALL of the attention. On both counts, I was the blunt end of a lot of lies and rumors and accusations as she worked hard to turn my entire family against me. 

I didn't care. I left the family. She got the money and the attention, and I got FREE FROM HER!

I win.