Living As All of Me

[sanmagic7]

it sure can be a wearing experience, hannah1, to find a new T.  my present T, when i told her i've had therapist trauma, asked me what i needed from a T.  i laid out a whole list, then asked 'can you do that?', and she said, 'yes, i can.'  and we've gotten on swimmingly since then.  but that's been the exception.  usually, i've had some red flags from the first or second session that i put in a 'wait and see' box, and every time (except for the very first one, when i had no knowledge or experience) those flags were correct, and i ended the relationship.  the very first one was the damaging one cuz i wasn't able to recognize red flags at the time, and it was disastrous.

but you know.  8 weeks is a fair trial.  more than fair, actually.  we usually know sooner, and you already had signals talking to you about her.  i hope this next one, who sounds like someone i could relate to, turns out really well for you.  therapy is difficult enough w/o the added whatevers that go into finding someone to have therapy with.  best to you.  love and hugs