Core Self Exercise

[rainydiary]

Hello All,

I am working on the exercise outlined at the website below and wanted to share the link in case it was supportive to anyone else.

https://neuroclastic.com/who-am-i-printable-resource-for-connecting-with-your-core-self/?fbclid=IwAR2lDM9yqysAEHRgloKu6PqCgfI39QjOhiCy99A5KRn1VfARHN3QjcrLugU

[Bach]

Hi rainy,

Thanks for sharing that.  I tried doing it and found it really difficult.  I couldn't finish the worksheet even once.  But I haven't been feeling well and my general mental state is pretty negative at the moment, so I'm going to try it again at another time when I have a different attitude and see what happens.  It might be interesting.  I have almost no sense of who I am that actually belongs to me.  I am only defined for myself by what people who are important to me want or need me to be, and that's really uncomfortable.

[rainydiary]

I appreciate you sharing about your experience with this. 

I am most interested in this as identity is something very confused for me.  I tried doing it with my family in mind and the answers that came aren't really things I actually identify with.  That made me feel a lot of things.

I am thinking of you.

[paul72]

thanks for sharing this rainy 
I've printed a few copies. I can't think of a single thing to note, but I'm going to try.
Maybe with practice, I'll eventually get there ... seems like a very worthwhile exercise to try!

[rainydiary]

Thanks Phil - it is really hard.  I am currently grieving how long I've gone without understanding my own identity. 

I am also reflecting that having so many steps to complete as outlined on the website may be overwhelming. 

I also find the worksheet a bit confusing. 

But I think it is a possible way to check in with oneself on this topic. 

[Mathilde]

Cool.

I used to do a lot of masking. Now barely any. I do have switching moods, with switching attitudes and values. But I think that's not masking.

I had to swallow some tears. I would feel perfectly safe showing every one my true idea of who I am. From date to friends, from colleagues to neighbours.

But when "family" came up, my only thought was: I do not want to show them anything at all. Zero. They will only wreck it. And tell me I am nothing. That everything positive associated with me, is not true. They did not see me for five years, twenty years. And still tell me, or others about me: she is like this or like that.

No. I'll show everyone my unmasked version. And my family nothing at all.