Hello - Part 1

[Kia1212]

Did anyone else grow up in a large family with a narcissistic mother who believed she owned my life? She would come into my home day after day, bringing my siblings along, without ever knocking or calling. The first thing she'd ask was, "What do you have to eat?"

At just 17, I made the mistake of marrying an alcoholic, narcissistic psychopath. He manipulated my family and even my kids into believing I had mental problems. I endured 25 years of that toxic marriage before finally divorcing him.

In 1996, shortly after giving birth to my daughter, I decided to confront my mom. I told her to get the * out of my house and demanded an apology for the years of psychological violence and domestic abuse I had suffered. Her response was devastating: "How dare you say that. You're boring, your kids hate you, and no one likes you." She went on to say, "I will never apologize to you."

[Kia1212]

PART 2
I continued to try to get an explanation up until the day she died in 2018. Nothing. I concluded that my ex and family of origin are narcissistic psychopaths they never apologize. It is your fault, you deserved it. You got fat, you let yourself go, etc. It broke my heart, it is still occurring when I try to explain to my siblings how I felt. You were going through something, we did not do anything. This is why you have to go no contact. I can't allow these people to be around me ever again.

Thanks for listening. It is nice to feel validated at 67 years old. Waited a long time.