Sexist narcissists

[89abc123]

Has anyone had experience with male narcissists hating women?

My narc is my older brother. Every time I achieve anything he says "it's because you have tits". Does anyone else have this problem or find this weird at all?

if I say no it's because I worked hard he says he's joking and I take it too serious.

Even his marriage breakdown is because women are 'crazy' and of course has nothing to do with him.

Is sexism a narcissistic trait or is it just convenient for him to use it to hurt me, is sexism just a tool he is using?

[Dutch Uncle]

My narcissist sister is a sexists. Anything and everything male is an abomination. When something doesn't go her way "it's because I'm a woman". When DramaMama does something obnoxious to both of us, it's worse for her because she's a woman or because she's her daughter, etc. etc. etc.

Is sexism a narcissistic trait or is it just convenient for him to use it to hurt me, is sexism just a tool he is using?

It's all about the narcissist, and thus so is his/her gender. All the rest is a tool to get 'supply'

My guess is it has to do with entitlement. Any which way they can feel entitled to something, they'll grab the opportunity.

[89abc123]

Omg.

It's just so frustrating. I guess it's easy for them to be unaccountable. If they can blame it on their gender they will lol.

Hahaha drama mama, good name Dutch uncle! Suitable I am sure 

I wonder if these comments are normal in neurotypical families. I wonder if all brothers talk about their sisters 'tits'. I just find it weird and uncomfortable.

[Dutch Uncle]

I wonder if these comments are normal in neurotypical families. I wonder if all brothers talk about their sisters 'tits'. I just find it weird and uncomfortable.

I'm pretty sure it's not. I guess it might be 'normal' during adolescence, when sexuality becomes such an awkward thing. Obviously I would say, as before adolescence sexuality is virtually a non-entity: as significant as the colour of ones hair.
I'd say that post-adolescence the fixation on 'tits' should wear down. (or beards/moustaches in case of my sis: she never fails to point out that my beard 'pricks' when I give her a "hello"-kiss, with the typical narc smirk of disdain on her face.)

Hahaha drama mama, good name Dutch uncle! Suitable I am sure 

Since I came up with that nickname for her, it has become so much easier to distance myself from her and her Drama.
I'm glad you like it.

[89abc123]

The word love is meaningless anyway if you can't actually feel that emotion.

[Chartery]

This misogyny and misandry
Where it comes from I know not
But witness to I can tell
It's a place not far from *

[Danaus plexippus]

The only part of my anatomy my bat $#I+ crazy brother ever made fun of were my adolescent zits not the other.

[sanmagic7]

i lived thru 2 marriages with misogynistic narcs.  pure undermining *, in very different ways.  hug #1 cheated on me with other women, verbal, mental, emotional abuse at every turn.  he even left me when i was 7 1/2 mos. pregnant.

hub #2 was the much more subtle intellectual misogynist.  everyone loved him, including my mother.  he cheated on me almost nightly during nearly 20 yrs. of marriage thru masturbation and porn videos, along with subterfuge, sabotage re: my parenting our 2 daughters, humiliation, etc.  it also turns out he had a sex addiction, that i didn't find out about until about 2/3 of the way thru our marriage, when he went to SA meetings.  little did i know that as our daughters grew to be women, he was also lusting after them.

the combination is devastating.  there was even more going on (a narc daughter - she and he double-teamed me for about 30 yrs.). i am in the early stages of recovery from all this as i only learned about it in bits and pieces along the years.

i find a brother referring to his sister's 'tits' to be completely inappropriate, disrespectful, and extremely misogynistic.  intolerable.  yes, during adolescence, a girl's maturation may be noticed more by a brother, but to use such words in such a frame of reference is not acceptable to me.  i think you hit the nail on the head, labeling him as such .  from my research and experience, narcissism and misogyny are 2 different things.   and, his laughing his remark off by saying he was just joking is a defense mechanism to put the blame of you, another form of emotional abuse.  i wish you well, and hope you can stay as clear of him as possible.