Sing Love Songs To Yourself

[shoshannah]

Run a bath
Fill it with epsom salt, bubbles, your favorite smelling soap...etc
Close your eyes
*OR just lie down and relax in a comfy chair or bed
Put on a love song. (The Only Exception by Paramore is one that I like)

Instead of thinking about a time you were heartbroken, or even your current partner, think about yourself. Take all that love and passion that the singer is singing and let it all in. Hug yourself and sit in awe of the love you are showing yourself by attempting to recover from the trauma that occupies your mind day and night. Appreciate that unconditional love and forgiveness you are showing to yourself.

It is a tool that I have been using since I was a teen and it helps me fill that loss of love that my father failed to show me.

If you are hesitant to try something like this out of fear of being too vulnerable with yourself, refer to the quote below.

"If you are truly strong, there is little need to emphasize it to yourself and others. Best to take another track entirely and direct your attention where you fear most to look. You can do this by allowing yourself to feel, even to cry, to not have to have opinions about everything, to not appear invisible or unfeeling to others, but instead to be in touch with and appropriately open about your feelings. What looks like weakness is actually where your strength lies. And what looks like strength is often weakness, an attempt to cover up the fear; this is an act or facade, however convincing it might appear to others or even to yourself." -Jon Kabat-Zinn

xx

[Blackbird]

This is great 

Thank you for the quote too.

[sanmagic7]

love this idea!  ( i could've sworn i already posted that about this!  must be losing my mind in the midst of everything going on.)   anyway, beautiful idea, shoshannah. 

[Blueberry]

For a long time (years) the CD, Songs for the Inner child, by Shaina Noll, did me (and my Inner Children) a world of good. Not so much anymore, but there must be some personal reason for that. I used to sing with the CD too.