A New Beginning (?) with my Father

Started by Milarepa, March 03, 2015, 09:22:57 PM

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Milarepa

I had a reasonably good first family therapy session with my father today. No major breakthroughs or tearful apologies, but he really was able to hear that I am genuinely afraid of his anger and that I don't feel safe with him. He said that he doesn't understand why I feel that way (skull like a Neanderthal, that one), or that sometimes I am emotionally fragile, but he'll try to remember that I feel that way when he interacts with me.

He's a long way from accepting accountability for the impact that he had on me as a child, but at least he didn't discount or invalidate it.

I have no idea what's going to happen from here, but it's a start.

Kizzie


C.

Very nice to hear.  Whatever happens sounds like a validating step.  And cheers for your courage to go and say what you needed to say.

Annegirl

Yes, this is good news. I applaud you both, I don't know any abusive father's who would take such a step. Brave of him and You  :applause:  :hug: