Do we have to forgive?

Started by anosognosia, March 13, 2015, 12:50:32 PM

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Dutch Uncle

Quote from: Annegirl on August 13, 2015, 09:38:18 PM
but for me forgiveness is letting go and allowing myself to be who i am without them in the picture anymore.

That's awesome!
I'm in a process where I'm trying to allow that to myself as well.

On a different website I found an article on (self-)forgiveness, and this quote really hit home:
"In some cases, self-forgiveness decreases forgiveness for others. In our efforts to protect and forgive abusers, we blame ourselves for the abuse. When we can forgive ourselves for being vulnerable, trusting, or simply finding ourselves in the vicinity of an abuser, we may feel less forgiving of the person choosing abusive behavior, at least for a while."

I take my hat off to you for having taken notice of lashing out on your kids, and stopped doing that. And acknowledging the connection with what your mom has put you through. She didn't do the right thing and didn't learn from her wrongs. You did, and continue to do so. Brava!  :applause:

Salute!