Christmas Confidence Downer

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Contessa

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Christmas Confidence Downer
« on: December 15, 2018, 02:24:21 AM »
Having a crisis of confidence today. I don't get invited to any parties at Christmas. It's been the general trend for the last 18 years.

I've got a 'half invite' to one in a few hours. Don't want to go into it, just want to hide in a hole.

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Blueberry

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Re: Christmas Confidence Downer
« Reply #1 on: December 15, 2018, 11:50:09 AM »
  At an OOTS Christmas Party you'd be invited and welcomed with open arms.

No idea why people irl don't invite you. Their loss :hug: :hug:  :grouphug:

Did you go to your half-invite? Whether or not, how are you feeling now?

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Re: Christmas Confidence Downer
« Reply #2 on: December 15, 2018, 01:20:16 PM »
That's the kind of invite to a party I have no problem attending.

I did not go no. I felt so uncomfortable at the thought of it. Spiralled down a bit then caught myself and demanded some compassion from the small piece of family I have left. Tonight ended up on a bit of a positive which was unusual. Small victory.

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Re: Christmas Confidence Downer
« Reply #3 on: December 15, 2018, 06:15:20 PM »
  :applause: for catching yourself before spiralling lower.     :cheer: for victories big or small.  :thumbup: that there's still a small bit of compassion to be had in your FOO somehow, some way.

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Contessa

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Re: Christmas Confidence Downer
« Reply #4 on: December 17, 2018, 05:35:08 AM »
Well that was one little victory. But the funk has set in. So over it, I used to love Christmas. Ten straight years of terrible Christmases. What a funk.

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Re: Christmas Confidence Downer
« Reply #5 on: December 17, 2018, 12:42:12 PM »
Nothing to say, only supportive  :hug: s if you like.

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Re: Christmas Confidence Downer
« Reply #6 on: December 17, 2018, 05:17:20 PM »
Sorry to hear you're in a funk Contessa, I wish we could have an actual OOTS Christmas party where we would all feel like we are wanted, that we belong and are safe, and can just relax and enjoy ourselves.  :hug:   

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Re: Christmas Confidence Downer
« Reply #7 on: December 23, 2018, 01:21:28 PM »
Sorry to read about this.

An invite to anything social always feels like being asked to do a parachute jump, just loaded with worry and misgivings.

Its a puzzle, not being part of things isn't right either, not good for people.

I'm not having Christmas, its going to be an isolated day like any other.

Really, that is precisely what it is. Just another day.

You are not the only one Contessa, its tough but we can do this.

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Re: Christmas Confidence Downer
« Reply #8 on: December 23, 2018, 05:59:01 PM »
Wishing that in some way, good things will happen for you beginning right now.

I know and understand more every day,, and the only real power that I have is to think positive for you and wish you a Happy Christmas!

Best to you,
AncientSoul

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Contessa

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Re: Christmas Confidence Downer
« Reply #9 on: December 26, 2018, 08:41:10 AM »
Thank you all. I hope you all had at least a peaceful day. Mine was rubbish.

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Blueberry

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Re: Christmas Confidence Downer
« Reply #10 on: December 26, 2018, 10:00:19 AM »
I did have a peaceful, even enjoyable day. Exceedingly reduced contact with FOO though. They are very far away.

May I send some  :hug: :hug:? Wishing for you that things pick up again. The Christmas season passes and I hope things get a bit more manageable for you.

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Re: Christmas Confidence Downer
« Reply #11 on: December 26, 2018, 03:34:56 PM »
also sending  :hug: :hug:, contessa.  this year, cuz i was with my d, there was no funk for the first time in a long time, so i know where you're coming from.  i hope you get that good, pos. feeling back eventually.  we keep surviving.

dang, i would love a holiday party with the oots crowd.  wouldn't that be fun?

love to you, contessa.  i'm glad you're here.

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Re: Christmas Confidence Downer
« Reply #12 on: December 28, 2018, 03:20:53 AM »
Thank you.
A party would be good.