Confusing stories

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Rainagain

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Confusing stories
« on: February 11, 2019, 11:33:10 AM »
Back to isolation after having to travel to meet a psych.

Very anxious time but done with.

The psych wasn't on the same page as me at all, a bit surreal really.

My ex employer has recently started to attack me directly, my integrity, my personality, all the important parts of a person.

Met an ex colleague and had a really good chat. When I mentioned this recent character attack they looked really shocked as they couldn't see how I could be seen as anything other than honest and hardworking.

That shock was real and so supportive, an honest response which helped to bolster me against the character attacks I face.

I was liked and respected by many, I never felt that but it was and is true.

It negates the shame to realise this, it helps to protect me from the negativity.

It's so hard to get my story straight when others are trying to warp things.

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« Reply #1 on: February 11, 2019, 05:33:10 PM »
 :cheer: for the honestly shocked and supportive response from your ex-colleague!

Really too bad, putting it mildly, that your ex employer won't leave you alone! Sounds a bit like Narc Woman who I had to deal with for a mere week - every time I defended myself or even just set a boundary, she escalated her bad treatment of me. But for you the situation must be far worse because it's ongoing.  :hug: :hug:

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« Reply #2 on: February 11, 2019, 05:43:21 PM »
Standing in support of you, Rain.  :hug:

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« Reply #3 on: February 11, 2019, 06:21:05 PM »
So sorry to hear the Pdoc was not on the same page Rainagain, some MH professionals just don't get that the N-like behav of people like your ex-employer is as abusive and damaging as it is.   

Lovely that your ex-colleague was so validating and affirming of your real self at least and I hope you hang onto that and fiercely so in the face of the character attacks.  :yes:

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« Reply #4 on: February 11, 2019, 11:56:25 PM »
Thank you for the kindness.

I think I was beginning to agree with the negative stuff so my ex colleague really helped me remember it is all manipulation.

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« Reply #5 on: February 12, 2019, 07:57:56 PM »
 :hug:

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« Reply #6 on: April 06, 2019, 10:31:20 AM »
I left my job a few years back with the psych issues my employer caused, no pension and no way to make a living as I'm wrecked.

Made enquiries this week and I am entitled to apply for ill health retirement.

This is good news as it might help me live.

But the fact that my employer caused my illness then manipulated me out of my job and went against their policies to deny me retirement on grounds of Ill health is gnawing at me.

All I did this week was email an enquiry to the pension scheme people, I could have done this 3 years ago but assumed my abusive managers wouldn't be that evil.

Another level of betrayal, vindictive managers harming me because they could get away with it.

Cause the illness then withold something that would help me.

The malice is shocking, I am having trouble counting the ways I was betrayed, this is a new level of awful, even if it is good news.

Not sure if its possible to recover from years of powerful people victimising me like this, even now a new aspect appears and I see a little more of the evil I experienced.

They purport to be professional but acted like a bunch of evil psychopaths, no remorse, no empathy.

Hard to process it all.

HR are looking into what happened to provide me with an explanation, they seem a little shocked  but no official response as yet.

If I can be victimised again I'm sure I will be.

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« Reply #7 on: April 06, 2019, 11:33:31 AM »
"Don't Let Behavior of Others Destroy Your Inner Peace” – Dalai Lama.

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« Reply #8 on: April 06, 2019, 04:36:25 PM »
Too late,

Its destroyed.

Maybe I could rebuild some.

Anyway, easy for him to say, he is self employed :dramaqueen:

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« Reply #9 on: April 10, 2019, 01:46:01 PM »
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Made enquiries this week and I am entitled to apply for ill health retirement.

I really hope this comes through Rainagain  :yes:

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"Don't Let Behavior of Others Destroy Your Inner Peace” – Dalai Lama.

I love so much of what the Dalai Lama writes and says and I aspire to it, but the reality is that trauma destroys any inner peace we might have had.  Many of us didn't have any b/c abuse began at an early age.  We have to work hard in recovery to achieve/regain some, part of which imo is facing and dealing with the anger and pain of being abused/betrayed.  I haven't gotten all the way there yet but it is coming.  If nothing else I know I will not ever let anyone treat me the same way which does add a small measure of inner peace I suppose.

Maybe you can rebuild some too once you deal with the hurt and anger.