I'm finally doing it!

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Dee

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I'm finally doing it!
« on: March 03, 2019, 03:30:48 PM »

I've been talking about moving away from the vicinity of my sister since I was inpatient in early 2017 (trauma program).  Since then I did a lot of talk and no action.  I think it just felt too big to do alone.  It came up again while I was inpatient for my eating disorder.  I now have had 3 therapist and 3 psychiatrist tell me to go.  I've put my house up for sell (I think I may have an offer) and I bought a new place.  It isn't that far away, 90 minute drive, but far enough. 

In September my sister said my dad died a broken man because of me.  She also said I was 100% responsible for ruining my mom and dad's lives.  Since then the thought of seeing her causes a panic attack.  I live about half a mile away and I am afraid to walk my dog in my neighborhood. 

I'll need to build new support, but it is close enough that I can keep my providers at least for the time being (or as long as I am willing to drive).  I had to go while the motivation was fresh from being inpatient again. 

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« Reply #1 on: March 03, 2019, 04:02:10 PM »
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good for you, dee.  i completely believe your sister is wrong.  we are not responsible for others' feelings, nor for their choices in their lives.  i hope you find some peace of mind once you're away.  love   :hug:

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« Reply #2 on: March 03, 2019, 04:10:31 PM »
Boy, is your sister wrong! If she really believes that, she is deluded, brainwashed; if she doesn't truly believe it, then she's inflicting pain on you purposely.

You are doing yourself a favor to cut out all these toxic people from your life! Bravo, my friend!

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« Reply #3 on: March 03, 2019, 10:58:12 PM »
Boy, is your sister wrong! If she really believes that, she is deluded, brainwashed; if she doesn't truly believe it, then she's inflicting pain on you purposely.

You are doing yourself a favor to cut out all these toxic people from your life! Bravo, my friend!

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Way to go!  :cheer: :cheer: :cheer:

I know lots about "a lot of talk (or thoughts) and no action" though I believe for myself at least that a delay can be necessary. However imo you're making biiiig progress really fast!  :applause: :hug:

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« Reply #4 on: March 08, 2019, 03:45:17 PM »
 :cheer: :cheer: :cheer: :applause: Yea for you taking that big step!

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« Reply #5 on: March 08, 2019, 06:02:50 PM »
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In September my sister said my dad died a broken man because of me.  She also said I was 100% responsible for ruining my mom and dad's lives.  Since then the thought of seeing her causes a panic attack.  I live about half a mile away and I am afraid to walk my dog in my neighborhood.

I am so sorry your S said this to you Dee, to be blamed and shamed for something this monumental is just cruel and untrue. I too moved away from my NM and NB and it gave me the energy and space to look at them and our relationships clearly and w/o constantly triggering. I couldn't think or feel anything around them b/c the old trauma would surge up and overtake me.  Anyway, it did wonders for me and I hope the same is true for you  :yes: 

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Dee

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« Reply #6 on: March 09, 2019, 03:24:54 AM »

I feel like for once in my life I got a break.  It worked out so well for me that it almost feels meant to be.  I sold my house in a bidding war for more than I asked and a cash offer.  The cash offer is good because I don't even think it would appraise for what I sold it.  My offer on the other place was accepted without a counter.  I like it better, it is a little bigger and nicer.  It was almost an even trade.

Now, the hard part is moving.  I've got it all set up and just packing now.  I have just over a month.  I think I will feel so free.  Free just to move around without fear.

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« Reply #7 on: March 09, 2019, 04:19:03 AM »
Wow! I'm so happy for you - I agree that it seems meant to be! I'm excited to see where this takes you, congrats -  :cheer: :cheer: :cheer:

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« Reply #8 on: March 09, 2019, 09:07:01 AM »

 I think I will feel so free.  Free just to move around without fear.

Oh that sounds great. It is what you truely deserve
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« Reply #9 on: March 09, 2019, 05:57:56 PM »
Wonderful news Dee!!   :thumbup:     :cheer:     :grouphug: