Attachment issues of friends

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Boatsetsailrose

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Attachment issues of friends
« on: April 03, 2019, 03:24:02 PM »
I love my friends dearly and love spending time with them -  when I can get time with them!
The thing is most if not all have attachment problems (just like me :)
I feel sad about this.
My attachment issues are more who I attach to rather than the amount...
There's seem more being evasive oone friend she flits from friend to friend yet I'm one of her closest. Another friend I know he loves spending time with me we have fun but his mh episodes shut him away... I also have another friend who doesn't contact me but is always up for meeting when I contact him....

Ultimately I need to accept these friends as they are with their struggles... I am going to take some more actions around widening my friendship circle which feels a good move... Never know I may be attracted to someone who doesn't have attachement issues!


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Re: Attachment issues of friends
« Reply #1 on: May 12, 2019, 05:16:26 PM »
Hi, this is interesting to me because I tend to think that my own friends issues are somehow reflecting on something I've done wrong - even when I know it isn't. It's useful for me to realise that other people have issues too, so I just wanted to say thanks for posting this.

I'm going to start a thread about issues I have around this.

SaB

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Boatsetsailrose

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Re: Attachment issues of friends
« Reply #2 on: May 13, 2019, 09:56:23 PM »
Thanks Sharp yes it's easy to thing its me and I've done something /am wrong... Its only just lately that I'm realising it's not me... I'm progressing in my healing around attachment with others and wanting to be close to others which I'm pleased about

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Re: Attachment issues of friends
« Reply #3 on: May 14, 2019, 08:37:01 AM »
Way to go, it's tough work and I'm glad to know you are healing around that  :thumbup:

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Re: Attachment issues of friends
« Reply #4 on: April 05, 2021, 07:38:44 PM »
Thank you for posting this! I also assume its about me! Your approach to widening you circle sounds really helpful and healthy.